Is it normal to want the same girl for 8 years and counting?

This is a hard situation. There are a few things that I feel are going on here- 1.) If she is saying she wants to just be friends- that is a red flag (assuming that you want more of course...) Whenever a girl says this to you, and especially if she puts you into the "best friends" category then you are never EVER going to be anything more than just friends. Here is the thing- Every woman wants to be with someone... so what she is basically telling you is that she doesnt want to be with YOU long term and she is trying to let you down in such a way as to "keep" her good friend. This never works. It will eventually end badly.
2.) You are infatuated- no one is perfect and you have built this girl up so much in your mind that she is on a pedestal. Sadly, like you said, every other normal girl will fall short. I know this is a hard thing to believe, but you need to back away from this girl and move on or you will never find someone for you and you will be stuck. You will end up miserable and if you do manage to date another girl--- she might try to jeopordize the relationship by starting to show you more attention and hinting that she is starting to be interested romanticly. Its a sad cycle and you will have to break it in order to move on. Trust me on this one.

You met the right person at the wrong time. Sometimes people aren't ready for the real deal when they find it. Sounds like she isn't ready to settle down :-/ suckss

It's normal. I've had feelings for my male friend for about 6 years. It's complicated. We rarely talk and haven't seen each other for 5 years. We've never told each other about our feelings. It's slightly different from your situation...

If she wanted to be with you she'd probably tell you her feelings that or she's dealing with her feelings. Tell her you love her, go with your heart. If you don't go for it, then you'll continue to wonder about "what if". 8 years is a long time to pine, but it shows your loyalty to her. Tell her on your own accord. Good Luck!

If she wanted you, she would want to be 'in a relationship' with you, no matter how long or short. lol. Sorry, it sounds very harsh. You love her. But does she love you in the same way? Do you think she could ever?

Please, don't put all your eggs in one basket. It only holds you back from happiness.

I think the biggest mistake you made was kissing her, knowing that she didn't want anything serious.

no, its not normal. It's special, but she doesn't see that. I think you should try to get over her, maybe stop being friends? I don't know id you'll ever be able to find someone else you like if she's still there. You'll forever be comparing other girls to her, so just stop. Stop being friends, stop loving her. I know it's harsh but sometimes thats the only way

It sounds kind of obsessive. Please move on, you will find a more available girl somewhere else.

thanks. its funny you say that sierrahearts, i cant count how many times she's tried to to hit me up after i get a girlfriend. its like she just needs me their to make her feel better or something. i feel used :/
but thanks

eight years to pine over someone is too long, especially that she was living elsewhere approximately 1/2 of that time. plus, instant deep feelings from the 7th grade should not have such an effect on you now, yet they do.

she is letting you down softly, but non the less, letting you down.

she's your dreamgirl, but nothing more. time to move on.