Is it normal to want someone to make me feel valid about something?

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It sounds like I'm attention seeking but honestly I just want someone to validate my feelings that my medical situation sucks. I have to have 8 alarms on my phone to make sure I take my medication on time every day. I take over 9400 mg of medication a day. If I don't take it I wind up sick as all hell, unable to move any of my joints, or I could have a stroke (fun stuff, amirite?). I've been like this for 4 years but everything I have is considered "invisible" so nobody really sees how much my body is beating me up from the inside out. I just want someone to say "I'm so sorry... your situation really sucks and you're really strong for dealing with it like you do". I'm in the ER 5 times a year, at one point it was so often that the triage nurses knew who I was when I walked (or was wheeled) in the door. I have 12 appointments at the hospital a year not counting scheduled blood tests/ct's/mri's/xrays/gp check-ups. The way people react makes me feel like I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill, or that what I'm going through at 20 is normal, but I just want to feel validated.... I honestly think with my health alone my situation is rough and I want to not feel like I'm the only one who thinks so.

Is it normal to want to feel that validation?

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Based on 32 votes (27 yes)
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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    I'm so sorry... your situation really sucks and you're really strong for dealing with it like you do

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  • squirrelgirl
    9 years ago

    I'm really sorry to hear that... No one should have to go through what you're going through. You are stronger than most people. Most people are healthy and just deal with relationship drama and other miscellaneous everyday crap. People like that have no right to complain about their lives. They should look up to people like you and offer their support.

    I'm sorry if I sound sarcastic in any way. I'm actually being sincere.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I didn't think I'd get support on here... I'm pleasantly surprised to say the least. Thank you for being so kind.

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  • Shackleford96
    9 years ago

    Yeah, that sounds really awful. I'm sorry you have to deal with all of that. You ARE strong for making it through all of that. Many people wouldn't be able to handle it like that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thank you for saying that <3

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I don't know. What is your disorder or diagnosis for that matter?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Severe Crohn's disease, major depressive disorder, arthritis, generalized anxiety, hypertension (not caused by any bad habits or anything), body dysmporphic disorder, something undiagnosed that causes bumps in my eye socket that press on my eye, a large blind spot in my right eye, something undiagnosed that causes shooting pains in my ribs when I try to breathe (specifically when i'm tired).

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