Is it normal to want sex so badly but not want it due to regret?

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I'm gay, closeted except to a select few people, and I'm 20. I want to have sex really badly but at the same time am happy to be a virgin. I also want to stay closeted because I only like straight guys. I don't think sex is worth it because I'd have feelings of "what did I just do" like after I masturbate. Also, I'm afraid that if I had sex I'd desire it ALL the time. Anyone share feelings?

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  • elenaki
    10 years ago

    Well, it's normal to feel that way, but your expectations are really far off from reality. You don't get addicted to se just by having it once. For the part where you said you feel guilty about masturbating, just take your time and think about it. It's really not a bad thing, we're just programmed to think like that (same way we were programmed to be afraid of the dark). Why would we have the urge to do something if it was so horrible and scandalous? Does something bad generally happen because you masturbated? Just try to find what it is that makes you feel guilty and give yourself the logical explanation. And masturbate. Eventually you won't have these negative feelings anymore.
    In any case don't rush it about losing your virginity. It'll happen eventually and it won't have any effect on your life after that. You won't be having sex all the time, and you won't stop masturbating. I know because I'm living it. Just wait until you have no doubts about it (or until you can't contain yourself any longer)

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    Well if that's your feelings after masturbating then you're probably right. You would regret sex. But there's nothing to regret really, especially not from masturbation. Only you know why you think that after masturbation but sounds like you're not ready for sex.

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