Is it normal to want sex from someone that likes you but you don't?

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Ok so I know my questions so far have been not so understandable, but this website won't allow me to make my question longer, so I'm gonna have to explain myself in this further detailed part of the question. So What I meant by "Is It Normal To Want Sex From Someone That Likes You But You Don't" is that is it normal to want sex from someone that likes you but you don't like back? This guy who has liked me since the beginning of when we met has professed his love to me multiple times. Back then he wasn't such a great person and many people hated him. But now that I've been talking to him online he's been showing me that I'm able to trust him and because I've put my trust in him, I'm willing to offer up sex to him if I had the chance. I know it sounds like I'm using him but the thing is is that I've never had a guy love me as much as he did and I'm still a virgin. I mean I know that wanting to loosing my virginity shouldn't be the reasons why I wanna have sex with him. But I feel like he'd give me what I wanted that none of the other boys give me. And I know you're wondering why would I give myself up to someone so easily, especially to a guy that I don't like? Well I've been heartbroken so many times and to have someone like him say all these nice things to me just makes me wanna give it up to him.

I know that maybe it's not such a good idea because I'll probably get heartbroken in the end and so will he, but I don't know. I'm just wondering if this is normal to offer up sex to someone who likes me but I don't like back? Am I crazy?

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bucho's_butt

8 years ago

People are so fucking stupid. The way you described this whole thing was like a business transaction. It was very cold and sterile. Maybe you should wait for someone who makes you feel something.

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ReginaFalange

8 years ago

I've been in your situation before.
Don't do it. Someone better will come along.

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PeoplePerson

8 years ago

IIN that people feel the need to ask total strangers for their opinions on matters that are not only completely inconsequential and trivial, but also so specific and personal that a helpful reply is usually little more than someone agreeing with what the OP already decided to themselves before posting?

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- Bgurl20
  
  8 years ago
  
  Umm, I'm not understanding your question.
  
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  - PeoplePerson
    
    8 years ago
    
    Are you really going to give up or keep your virginity based on what strangers in this thread say when no one knows you or the guy personally? This situation calls for introspection, not Internet polling.
    
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    - Bgurl20
      
      8 years ago
      
      I'm asking because I need help to make a decision. Half the time in these types of situations I don't really know what to do. :/
      
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      - PeoplePerson
        
        8 years ago
        
        Just don't do anything. If some day you bang him then fine. If you don't it's also fine. If it were me, I wouldn't, but that's me. I lost mine to a girlfriend and she lost hers to me. If you start disassociating love and sex from your first time then you're going to have a smooth transition into being a total prostitute. Just wait. Don't waste brain power wondering such things. If you have to start an Internet thread about whether or not to fuck someone then the answer is no.
        
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        Bgurl20
        
        8 years ago
        
        Ok. That makes me feel better. I don't wanna become a prostitute. I mean I have the insecurities of one because no guy will ever me love me I feel like so I kinda have it sometimes that if a guy loves me but I don't love him, it's still ok to have sex with him because he loves me and will give me what I deserve. But then again, I'll probably regret it later because I don't love him like he loves me. I planned to have sex with a guy before and turned him down multiple times because I just didn't like him like that. I'm an idiot, I know. But that's just how my brain works now because of how many guys screwed me over.
        
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sexysonofsam

8 years ago

I think you should go for it, at least he treats you like a queen!

There is an old saying that goes, "rather be an old mans darling than a young mans fool!"

If you want to give him your virginity it is all cool!

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youre

8 years ago

Thats y i prefer to keep the girl i love virgin tell we get married ,i know this is somthing wierd and un acceptable in u guys socity but ur question make me feel that i'am a 100% right i never and i would never sleep with a virgin girl becaouse i know how she will regret it and feel bad if i left her after and honistly i'll feel even worth becaouse (for me) this is somthing should be for 1 man the man who love u and u love him
and u will marry him and spend the rest of ur life with him
Talking about ur question , forget about what happend to u and give ur self a chance to love him IF u really feel that he is honest frist

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- Bgurl20
  
  8 years ago
  
  Ok, but I honestly will never like him like that.
  
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Steve2.1

8 years ago

This post was so ridiculously long I could not be bothered reading it.

But, yeah, sex and love and shit like that...blah blah blah...yeah, totally.

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- Bgurl20
  
  8 years ago
  
  Yeah ok, thanks for the help. I GREATLY appreciate it! -_-!
  
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Fall_leaves

8 years ago

Normal? Most fuck buddy relationships one person likes the other but the other person just likes the easy lay.

Wouldn't suggest this though since you're a virgin. The first person you sleep with should be someone you care about.

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- Bgurl20
  
  8 years ago
  
  Thanks. I think I'm just having this really weird loop again. I tried having sex with a guy that liked me but I didn't like him. All he wanted me for was sex anyways, but I'm so heartbroken that I'm looking for love in all the wrong places (no pun intended). But like every guy that I cared about turned out to either be a douche towards me or didn't like me back so it's really hard. Idk. I'm just broken inside so when I have someone that likes me but I don't like them, my mind gets clouded with these judgements and I become unsure with myself and I just.....I just kinda make a stupid decision in having sex with someone that I don't care about but cares about me because, don't I deserved to be loved? Idk, I'm just really broken that I don't know what to do. I don't wanna come off as a player, I just...I'm broken and I need love.
  
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  - Fall_leaves
    
    8 years ago
    
    You're not going to find love sleeping with someone you don't care about.
    
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    - Bgurl20
      
      8 years ago
      
      Ok
      
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  - LittleGirlAtrociouslySodomized
    
    8 years ago
    
    Why wouldn't you want to come off as a player?
    
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    - Bgurl20
      
      8 years ago
      
      Cause I kinda did that with someone I didn't like without meaning to. Since I have a disability, I didn't really realize I was doing it, well I guess I did, but I was trying to find something, like love, to fix my broken heart.
      
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