Is it normal to want sex but to scared to try?

He's pressuring you after two weeks? I'd definitely keep my virginity!

Omg, don't do it. In fact, dump his sorry ass and move on till you find a nice guy. Who the fuck says "I want to tear you up" after 2 weeks, what a creep. Stay away from him

I gotta agree with Danny. A guy who says "I want to tear you up" is not a guy you should lose your virginity to, he's a mindless animal. don't do it with this guy.

Don't do it, you aren't ready and you don't want to regret your first time.

I want to tear you up?? What does that even mean??
Two weeks wow!! Don't did it seriously. It's a special thing to happen. And you will meet someone you don't feel insecure around.

If you hesitate a bit then don't. if he likes you he'll stay; and if he leaves you because doesn't get sex from you then he is not worth you ;)

If you have any doubts, don't do it.

If he really likes you for who you are (and not just for what is between your legs), he would wait until you are ready... without pressuring you into doing something you are obviously not ready to do.

As my username implies, I am a big guy. My wife (who has a perfect figure) loves me for who I am. My previous wife, who I met when I was in perfect shape (back before we were married when I lifted big weights), pressured me into doing something I wasn't ready to do. I wish I had waited. Long story short... When I ran into serious health issues and gained weight, she left me for a guy in better shape.

Don't ever be afraid to wait. Don't ever let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

Tell him to shove his dick in a pencil sharpener, he can rip that.
But seriously don't do it if you have ANY doubts, it's not worth it.

I don't even say " I want to tear you up" to my gf and we've been together 9 minths haha
what a creep

I agree with Danny. Who says that after 2 weeks?!

I would avoid sleeping with any guy who says he wants to "tear you up".

After friggen two weeks? I would keep my virginity if i was you. The way he's talking to you about sex looks like he's just in it. To get it and he's gone. I would stop talking to him completly.

Yes It is normal from my point of view I don't go after women just for sex I find the right one with personality follow your gut/heart. You have to be careful about some men and if I saw you naked I wouldn't care I would love you for you and your personality's.

dont give it up so quick..from a guys point of view i would pretty much expect a girl to give it up pretty fast if your a little bit older, but definitely wouldn't tell her "i wanna tear it up". How do you even like this dude when hes talking to you like that?

No guy is just getting to get up and leave right before the act of sex. I'll never understand why women have no confidence in themselves. Guys buy nature are utilitarian(not always the best looking. Were the ugly of the species.

I think the dude is wierd and i no how u feel b/c im scared to have sex too
tear it up? Again Hes an idiot
Dont lose you virginity to him

if your that scared don't do it. ever. until your safe and sure. other people are often less judgmental about us than we are selves are but then u have to learn to trust your instincts and learn to tell the difference between them and your own doubts. if unsure it has been said that it is better to err on the side of caution but don't miss out on life. once again if in doubt don't, but maybe just for right now, with this one. don't worry the right one will come along

If u don't want to then don't. But it sorta sounds like u want to try it. So if he doesn't mean much to u then if he does end up leaving it won't matter. But if u like him then make him wait a month or two or three or whatever u feel comfy with. Also when a guy sees a girls naked he doesn't lol at details that us girls focus on

yeah thats completely normal. dont worry about it. im scared to do it too. its ok youll get over it soon i no how u feel and i understand

If you feel pressured into it then you wont enjoy it.

Keep your virginity for someone you want to jump instead of someone who will probably hump you and dump you.

Don't do it

as i was reading this i had to check and make sure i didnt actually write this.... we have almost identical situations.... would you want to talk to me about it? maybe we can help eachother?

I would run away if some guy said THAT to me!!! In other words, he is selfish and wants to please himself, not you. Trust me, your first time, you probably want a caring guy who is willing to take things slow with you and check if you are in pain and be willing to stop, not some freak who will get it over with fast and be gone! You REALLY need to learn to love yourself before you open up for anyone else to.

I think his trying to use you :(

do you

u say that u r afraid if its the only what he wants from you, but u said u want him too. why wont u just have sex, and the he might leave or might stay.
its same if u dont sex with him, he might leave you or stay and wait (but in this situation u r not treated also)

if u want it why wont u do it?/

He should not be "urging" you. It is your decision, not his, and he should respect that.

Wait.

It's totally alright to want to wait until you are comfortable. I think the biggest problem in this area is that people are not willing to compromise and find a middle ground with the other person. One person feels they want sex in the first week, the other wants to go a month. Who's right? Neither, it's just preference.

I would strongly suggest you work on your self-esteem issues however. While low self-esteem is "normal", it is not good. Look at books by David Burns, they are very helpful to me. If you go to amazon, once you find Burns' book, you will see others like them being recommended too. Good luck.

And to the comment above..I'm glad you found someone who really cares about you! Nice to hear good stories!

you

if this guy really liked which i doubt he wouldnt care what your body looked like you for you and im just curious do you have big boobs if thats ok to ask