Is it normal to want no attention, to wish to be invisible to everyone

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When I was a little girl (5), I was a flower girl in my aunt's wedding. The only aspect of the day I really remember, though, is thinking, "When I get married, I don't want ANYBODY to look at me." And that's why both my 'weddings' were with a justice of the peace in a house. I would not have had ANYONE there if my mom didn't insist on being there, etc. Each wedding had no more than 8-10 people in attendance, and that was more than I wanted. As I hit puberty and grew through my teens, I HATED when men catcalled or whistled at me. I disliked when people made eye contact with me if I thought they were hitting on me, like in a bar. Thus, I am now obese - though I've lost weight many, many times, I loose my motivation when I start getting attention for the weight loss. I do NOT want to be 'attractive' or pretty or someone that people see. As a fat person, I am fairly invisible. I dislike it for so many reasons, but it insulates me. Is this normal?? If not, how do I stop?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I'm sorry it's had such a negative effect on you but do you not think that if you are obese, you are going to be noticed more by strangers?

    I personally hate any fuss or attention or compliments and just potter away through my life. I tend to laugh at fools who try to chat me up - dicks!! I'm married over 20 years.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I feel like this. Maybe it's because you hate living to the expectations you feel that individuals place on you. When your looked at by people, they expect you to do something, anything. I suggest you show them what you got. Don't hide your body, but don't flash them either. Learn to take a compliment and tell people to F***k off

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