Is it normal to want my boyfriend to get abs?

Yeah it's normal to want that. It's not normal to make him feel inadequate or 'small' because he doesn't have it though.

How would you feel if he decided over time he thought you'd look better a little skinnier or a little fatter, and he let you know this? Do you think you'd feel good about yourself? Or do you think you'd feel a bit shit; insecure and self conscious?

Best just to accept that he doesn't want abs. Focus on his positives, just as you hope he focuses on yours.

You sound like a shallow, spoiled bitch. Do you know how hard it is to get and maintain abs? It's one thing if you want him to exercise be healthy. Everyone should be healty.

But what you're asking is for him to completely change his lifestyle and take up habits that he has no interest in. And all this just for your own superficial amusement.

Accept him for who he is or leave. However, if you want to change him to fit your needs then workout with him. Tell him that you need to lose weight and would love it if he joined you. Eventually, he'll be the situation, thus you got your shallow wish.

Get a boob job bitch.

(I hate fake tits, I'm just trying to illustrate a point)

A long while ago, before I met my boyfriend, I knew that I wasn't at all attracted to really slim guys. In fact, I quite liked a larger guy. When I met my boyfriend, and I fell for him, and all that jazz, his body didn't matter to me. I love him and everything about him and everything about his body.

You should respect your boyfriend, and love him for who he is. If he doesn't want to change, don't try and make him just because you want him to. That's really unfair. :(

It's not right to try and mold your boyfriend into what you currently prefer in a man. What if he one day preferred a woman who has bigger (or smaller) breasts and nagged you to get a boobjob?

I know this is an older post and I realize that it's no longer relevant but I think it's normal. As long as you don't hurt each other it's not necessarily wrong to request something of your boyfriend in the "looks department", provided that you ask nicely and respect his answer whether he's willing to do it or not.

Because if you do ask nicely, there are many guys willing to improve their physique a bit. I've done it for my girlfriend as well and I do respect her enough to work out a lot to look good to her.

Yeah being subtle...That works real well on guys.

I think he is just saying it's not normal because he is being lazy and doesn't want to work out. I've had plenty of girlfriends tell me they liked my abs..(back when I had them..lol)

Of course it's normal you find that attractive. Just like men like a woman with a nice figure.

Why not? It can't harm him -he'll just feel better and stronger if he starts working out. But... he might not appreciate the preassure and you might accidentally get himm to be very defensive about his looks. So I don't have a good advice how to make someone want to work out, but it's completely normal to want your significant other to look good!

Do you mean he should have abs cause he's short? If so do you think thats hot? Because I'm short and I have a six pack, and toned and hard arms, wondering if girls could get turned on by my body, even though I am short.

Love him the way he is or move on. That's a decision he needs to make on his own since its a lot of work and commitment. Nagging just won't do it. He's happy the way he is and I bet another would like him the way he is too.

Why, though? I don't see how it's necessary.