Is it normal to want friends ?

I'm kind of an introvert ad try to be very moral.
I don't have many friends but really want to make some to have people to talk to and go places with.
I also am stuck inside a lot so I guess id need to make friends online for now. I don't know to many ways to.
I spent my childhood lonely too.
Is this normal?

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Based on 27 votes (21 yes)
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  • Nathanielx

    I think you might have misunderstood the definition of "introvert".
    Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.
    So if you were to actually be introvert, you wouldn't be trying to make friends you could go places with.

    That doesn't matter though, just thought I'd let you know.
    To be honest, there isn't a person in the world who has many friends. Most people who claim to have a lot of friends, merely have a large collection of acquaintances, and mistakes them for being friends.
    I know a lot of people, and tend to hang out with different people all the time, but in truth, I only have but a single friend. I had two friends once, but I messed up, and lost one of them. But that's another story.

    You say you're stuck inside a lot, but is that not your own choice? Obviously, you have atleast SOME friends, what about you have these friends introduce you to some of their acquaintances? You might end up being on good terms with them.
    If you want to make friends online, why don't you download an MMO? There are lots of good ones out there, like Eden Eternal. I've stopped playing that game long ago, but I remember I didn't even reach level 10, before I ended up just standing in town, talking with a bunch of people I had met along the way.

    Personally I too was alone when I was a child, I still feel lonely sometimes, everyone does. Loneliness is common.

    All in all, what you're experiencing is completely normal, and you shouldn't let it get you down.
    If you want to meet people, you gotta go out and meet them, that's all there is to it! (:

    Much love,

    - Nathan

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    • Ms.difficult

      Your comments are fantastic!

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      • Nathanielx

        Thank you very much.
        I decided to read through a few of your own comments, and quite enjoyed the ride. Especially the part about "Bio-Nazism".

        - Nathan

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  • justsomekidfromcanada

    You want me to be honest? No one wants a friend that has nothing to contribute. It took me a while to learn that. You can't just expect people to find something interesting in you. You have to let it be known. I know it can be really hard when you're in a rough place but I would suggest finding something you really enjoy and putting all your frustration into it. Be it an instrument, running, going to the gym or even wine tasting. If you have interests you'll find it a lot easier to meet people. Make yourself the kind of person you'd want to hang out with. You're not blaming anyone else for this problem and you seem like a really good person so don't talk yourself out of it. When you spend a lot of time alone it can be really easy to never get out of the slump because it's easier to make up excuses than do something about it.

    Also I don't like that people say socializing "drains" introverts. Being an introvert myself, that makes it seem like socializing is a necessary chore when in reality, it should not feel like that at all. I like to think that introverts simply live in their heads more than others. We tend to think more and say less but that does not mean an introvert has to be any less sociable than an extrovert. If I'm having a couple drinks with some good friends, to say that it "drains" me is an absolutely ridiculous notion.

    If you just said you spend a lot of time alone, I would say it's completely normal because a lot of people like their alone time. But you said you wanted more friends and the only way you're going to do that is by putting yourself out there. Cheer up man. The world really is filled with great people if you look hard enough.

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  • Handfield

    I don't have any friends either... I just can't keep friends, i don't understand why.

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  • seekingcleanfriendship

    Thank you everyone for your comments my life is a bit complicated at the moment and going places to make friends is rather tough. I will take everyone's advice into consideration thanks!

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  • Energy

    I want more friends too. I barely hang out with my real friends anymore. And I'm tired of online ones.. If you do want some online friends try a messanger called "Palringo". Just google it. It has a lot of chat rooms with so many people. I've met a few good people from there who I talk to way more than my real friends. But it's also full of pervs, trolls, and rude people.

    Try gaming? I play a game called "MapleStory" time to time. And I met a few decent people from it. It's a little childish looking, but it's fun. It may also have annoying little kids. And trolls of course.

    Hope this somewhat helped!

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