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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 momths, we are happy but always seem to bicker. I like to flirt with other guys so I brought up the idea of an open relationship and he was strongly against and said I would have to choose him or another guy. is it normal normal for him to act this way and should i steer away (even though i really want it)
In all honesty, your boyfriend's reaction was very normal. The suggestion of an open relationship is basically like stating that you are going to cheat on him. If you really are not comfortable committing yourself to one man then I suggest not being in a relationship in the first place. Maybe your relationship is in a rut but having sex with other people will definitely not help the situation. If you really want to try to fix the relationship then I would suggest that you two sit down and discuss your feelings about what each of you want. If at the end you both realize that you're two separate individuals who want to achieve different objectives then it's best that you two end the relationship. To reiterate, an open relationship will not solve your bickering.
An open relationship is not a good idea if you're having problems with your significant other, that does not mean that people who desire open relationships should not have them if that is what both parties want.
In my relationship there is no such thing as cheating, we're open and very happy with our arrangement. We met, became friends, and eventually transitioned into a relationship which we discussed first. We don't feel that it is right to control your significant other, we don't see anything wrong with sharing. We have no jealousy issues and trust and care for each other very much. This is what works for us, this is what makes us happy. We are very much proponents of free (but safe ;P) love.
(despite the openess we have been together for 8 months without feeling the need to go elsewhere. Still trying to find another girl to come join our fun though XD)
"we are happy but always seem to bicker."
There's your problem. If you're always fighting ... how are you really happy with each other?
If you are considering of cheating on him, maybe it's best if you find a partner who would be accepting of your want to have an open relationship.
Sip the issue at the bud and there will be less blood to clean up.
it makes it seem like you dont want him anymore. im sorry to say it, but your relationship wont be the same because he'll have the constant thought of you wanted another man, in his head...
I wouldent want it eather I would dump her ass right there for even bringing it up no way in fuck would I date a girl like that I have more respect for a cheeter then someone that wants to be able to date outher guys with her bf knowing sick
Pretty sure you've already ruined this relationship by asking if you could do other guys. He's always going to be wondering if you're screwing around behind his back. Be nice to him and break up now, or else he's going to be spending the rest of the time you're dating being suspicious of you.
Same... But I'm single so it's okay for me /: it's a bit of a tough situation if you are feeling this way & your already in a relationship, maybe you need to think about if you really want too be with this guy :/ x
If he's not open to an open relationship, but you really want it and flirt with other guys all the time... I suggest you do yourselves (especially him) a favour and break up.
The only person an open relationship benefits is the woman. Men have to work a lot harder to get laid.
Just break up and be single? What's the point of having one guy and wanting to fuck around on him. It doesn't make any sense..
Your boyfriend is a man who doesn't like to share his girl, like me and many other men out there.
I think it's normal you want that. I am in a very happy open relationship for quite a while already.
It can work so great, if both partners are capable of separating feelings and sex from one another.
Still, your boyfriend does not sound interested in that, it may be in both of your interests to move on. It's no use to cause either you or him too much pain in this process that will end up frustrating either or both of you in the long run.
End this and make clear what you are looking for right from the beginning next time! If you are slightly bi-interested, you can use that as an extra "bargain" element, many guys seem to dream of threesomes with their girlfriend and another girl. But be aware of what you get into...it's one thing to know the partner openly lives their sexuality with other people when you are not there...it's something else to see him in another girl while you are present, that can be a turn-on or a huge jealousy spike...find out before getting into this situation what's more likely for you.
I say leave him for his own good. Since you want an open relationship find someone who would want that too. Don't make him feel paranoid and heartbroken :/