Is it normal to want a romantic relationship with my brother?

I've been a loner for most of my life. Any friendship or relationship I've been in has fallen apart in a matter of months. Even recently, my boyfriend broke up with me giving no reason other than that I was "just someone to hold on his arm." I'm not sure if I don't have enough character, I'm not open enough, or if I really am just that uninteresting.

All along these, what can only be called 'let downs' in my life, I've always gone to my brother, who is 2 years older than me, for support. He was always kind, caring, and genuinely cared for me whenever I was upset. We were always close growing up. Though, a bit after I hit puberty, my feelings for my brother became more... Intense. Whenever I was with him, I'd feel warm and giddy, like what it feels like to be in love. Of course I shrugged it off and tried dating and spending my time with other people, but as it often led to disappointment, I always found myself crying to my brother again. Sometimes I would even ask to cuddle or sleep with him if I ever was particularly upset.

One or two years later, I found myself becoming more interested in my brother. As I matured sexually, I found my mind wandering toward him in ways I've never thought to before. At first I was absolutely disgusted by the idea, but as time passed I felt more comfortable, and even excited about the idea. I've hinted at the idea of a relationship or physical contact with him and he was more receptive that I had expected, but then again, he could have just as likely been joking.

Now I'm 18 and I've just graduated highschool. My brother is in college and still lives with me. I don't know what to feel or do, but I feel like I'm truely in love with him. I know that this likely isn't normal, but I don't know how, or if I even should, confess my feelings to him. I just feel I need some advice because I feel so many conflicting emotions that I just can't figure what to do.

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Based on 112 votes (43 yes)
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Comments ( 25 )
  • You definitely shouldn't try to further this. Go out and meet new people. Don't get down about it when you find most people can suck, but meet a lot of people and choose ones you like.

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  • Couman

    One thing to consider is whether he's currently in a normal relationship. If he is, it would be unfair to both of them to do anything that might mess that up.

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  • perfectxsilence

    You need to see more men. I don't think you're in love with him that way either. I think you're used to him and you love him as a brother but your thoughts are getting confused.

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  • DubstepismyMJ

    I think you do love him, but not in that way. I think your confusing this for a different type of love because you are lonely.

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  • mountain-man82

    Definitely dont confess those feelings to your brother.

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  • Lonely2

    If these feelings have lasted they probably are geniune....the relationship might just be so good right now that adding romance to it could ruin it...

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    • LIGHTHOUSE

      I totally agree with it.

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  • youwon'tknowme

    I think that you've probably just grown really attached to him over the years and it's evolved into something more than sibling love , and it is normal.
    he's a caring boy and he's always been there for you , if he was somebody else then you would still feel the same way , it's only natural that you would be attracted to him , though I would not suggest that you carry on with it because incest is frowned upon in society AND illegal

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  • peterr

    Suck him off and see if he likes it.

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  • pusssyeater

    You're just young and horny. You bad girl.

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  • Brian-hose

    Let him catch you in lace panties and pantyhose .. See. His reaction

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    • Mike914914

      I love that. I would fuck her if she wore that so hard.

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  • pdx

    your a sick and disgusting individual

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  • flowerchild94

    love will find u in the most craziest ways.. it may not make sense to no one but you two and its gonna be a hard life if it is furthered but if its what you both want to do then don't let anyone stand in ur way

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    • Mike914914

      That's right. If you wanna ride your brothers cock till he cums go ahead make him cum so much in your pussy. Omg my mother ride my cock hsrd and make my cock cum like a horse. Last night I was pounding her and shot so much cum in her. Omg I love fucking mom. She fucks so amazing and is nasty and I can make her squirt and I love mom squirting on her sons cock. I'm nasty

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  • wistfulmaiden

    This is not a good thing. Love your brother but don't make love to him. Inbreeding is just wrong.

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    • pusssyeater

      What if they don't have kids?

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  • mariamaria

    Please see a therapist!!! If you can't afford it, try to find reputable areas on internet to ask questions like <a href="http://goaskalice.com" rel="nofollow">goaskalice.com</a> or <a href="http://aslalice.com" rel="nofollow">aslalice.com</a> (can't really remember now). It is always the best thing in life to do what is right. The guilt and social opprobrium that comes with doing something so far outside of traditional norms is not worth it. I think that it is because you are lonely. Life lies to us when we are children and tells us that there is a "place" for all of us where we will fit in. That may be true but often it takes more money and resources than a lot of us have to find that "place" where we fit in and are warmly accepted. That need is deep and wide and painful if unfulfilled. I think you do loe your brother because he is the person who "sees" you and loves you... BUT do not go there. Your first order of business is to LEARN HOW TO BE ALONE. Learn how to lessen the pain by doing things that, although they may not leave you feeling as fulfilled as your brother does, lessens that loneliness and underlying feeling of rejection. So it is i think also the feeling of rejection as well as loneliness and that, in my personal opinion, is VERY, VERY DANGEROUS. Loneliness will lead us to cast aside precaution, morals, everything because of that human drive toward companionship and yes- biological reproduction. If there isn't anyone else willing to be around besides your brother, it makes sense from an evolutionary perspective that you would be focused on him in order to perpetuate your genes. But then, where would society end up if we started going down this road?? So, if you can please seek a therapist to 1. HAVE SOMEONE BESIDES YOUR BROTHER WHO IS JUST THERE FOR YOU. and 2. If possible, work through your feelings eventually. Also helpful is to develop a spiritual outlet. When you reach out to a higher power, there is reassurance that sen when no one at all is physically there, there is always "someone" there- if that makes any sense. My mind tells me though that you are someone who will have to come to terms with a fate that deems you be alone/rejected most of your life. It does not really have anything to do with you but with a society that might not be able to appreciate what you have to offer. We don't like to admit how much of a marketplace life really is. Offer it anyway and keep on offering it but do not expect appreciation or anything else. Just offer because we are expected to use our gifts. As society becomes more and more superficial, there will be more and more people like yourself. It sucks but the focus should one coming to terms with your fate as opposed to doing the wrong thing in order to run away from it. I wish you the best of luck and God bless you!!!

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    • Lonely2

      I think you need a therapist .....

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      • pusssyeater

        lol

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  • ArtemesiaNoam

    Hint a little more. Keep hinting subtly, though. Give slightly stronger signals each time.

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  • swm5532

    Talk to him again and see what he says . If he says he doesnt like the idea of it , just say you were joking .

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  • DingDongCabong

    further with this*

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  • DingDongCabong

    If you go further with you, you might lose him for good.. you only feel good with him because you dont really have anyone else and he seems to be the best thing that has ever happened to you but that's just an illusion because HE makes you feel good and you crave that.
    It's not love.. its more like needing him

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  • Who_Fan4Life

    Before fellatio ensues, practice on a banana. Attain proper technique and get the spit-to-suction ratio down to a science!

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