Is it normal to want a relationship, yet be scared?

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I just got out of a relationship about a month ago, and we were really close, and I trusted him with everything. He was the first guy I ever loved, and ever did anything with..but he wanted to take it further every time, and i wasn't ready to give up my virginity. He and I completed each other, and he actually said, that if we dated a while longer, we might get married. Yet, he wanted more than i would give him, and it frustrated him. And, so, 7 months later, he ended it over FACEBOOK.
I'm moving to a new school in a week. I don't trust many people, and I'm not outgoing, and I'm actually kind of shy...I don't know what to do. It's eating me alive to be alone, and feel so lonely. But yet, when I talk to a guy, I freeze up..it's like my mind locks them out, and I brush them to the side. Is this normal? What should I do? Please help. Thanks.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Sorry but the guy you were dating was a loser. I'm surprised he even stayed with you 7 months. There's something that he should have known and it was not to push things ahead to fast. He should have waited patiently until you were ready to go further. Yes it can be extremely hard but if he loved you, he would have been capable. Him saying "if we dated a while longer, we might get married" is just a sentence to make you feel like you would always be together. Him ending your relationship over facebook, well it just comfirms my point of him being a loser.

    Maybe try to make a few girl friends at first and then I'm sure those girls will be friends with guys and then you can become friends with those guys. Just stay yourself and I'm sure you'll find someone you will want to know more of and you won't freeze up.

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  • solidman
    12 years ago

    Yes this s completly normal, but I think you just need time and do the things you love to do and youl make real friends. Yeah I know the feeling. The feeling when your first betrays you. But you need to understand that you didn't do anything wrong, he was the one who wanted to fast things up and you just couldn't. Don't worry just keep your spirit up, and keep being positiv and I'm sure youl find someone who truly loves you.

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  • ColePhelps
    12 years ago

    i've been hurt/let down by EVERYONE i've ever cared about i'm a broken man so yes it is normal

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  • helenjewett
    12 years ago

    It's going to take some time to heal. That douchebag broke your trust. What a stupid asshole. Even though we can't see into the future, you have to believe that there's someone out there dying to be your significant. Try taking this time to learn more about yourself (hobbies, likes/dislikes), be active. Build confidence in yourself. You're stronger than you think. Don't be afraid to take risks. Try building more girl friendships than boys friendships first. good luck at the new school!

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    This all gets better with time and the attention of another!

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