Is it normal to want a man to control me in and out of the bedroom?

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The thought of a man controlling me in and out of the bedroom turns me on tremendously. Controlling me as in= what I wear, who I hang out with, what I do in my free time, and when we have sex. Now I looked this up enough to know that most people will say this is an 'unhealthy relationship'. But that makes it somewhat more exciting for me. I want him to be possessive and demanding, I just get butterflies from thinking about it. I have heard that this is what most Masculine Men are like and that's what im into. But are a lot of men like this? And if I do get a boyfriend soon that is not like this, would it be wrong to ask him to be controlling?
Wanting this, does this make me have a submissive personality? I'm really not into pain or BDSM, at all. I mean of course, I don't want him to order me around like "Go get me a beer!" Mostly while someone is with us, especially my parents. It's also weird because I don't like when my parents order me around, but the thought of my boyfriend doing it especially in bed turns me on so much. I don't allow people to order me around or think that im weak but I would get on my knees for this man? I'm extremely confused. So Is It Normal?

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Based on 54 votes (32 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago | pl

    "I have heard that this is what most Masculine Men are like"

    Not true at all. Being overly possessive is a huge sign of insecurity. It takes a real man to not need to control everything around him to be able to feel good about himself. Have fun finding an insecure dickhead who sucks all the life out of you.

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    • Bubbles3
      10 years ago

      Well anyway, thank you for replying and taking the time out of your day to help me! :) And you're right.. I have never thought of them as insecure, and I realized I don't want that anymore. So thank you probably helped me from ruining my life :/ thanks again!

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I'm very glad I made you realize that. I wish more people would have that realization. Find a man who lets you be yourself. Another mistake women make is trying to change someone. You should both like each other the way you are when you meet. People can only change themselves.

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        • Bubbles3
          10 years ago

          I can't even thank you enough! I never realized it like that, and I was looking to change someone else. Which isn't right. And I was only thinking about myself in the matter! I just can't believe how selfish I was being! Thank you love again! You opened my eyes ALOT!

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          • YourMomSaysHello
            10 years ago

            How the hell can you change your mind that easily? Just because someone told you something over the internet. WOW!

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            • Bubbles3
              10 years ago

              Well it's different when someone tells me directly. Reading replies off of someone else's paragraph is different. And I realized something's I hadn't even thought of :)

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  • SadoShaun&MasochistMarci
    10 years ago

    I think you are referring to a man being dominate over you... you being sexually submissive is MUCH different than someone "controlling" you. S&M is more prevalent than you may think. My man loves to be dominant, and I love to be submissive. We act out fantasies, and get kinky when we're in the right moods. Find a man that respects you, but allows you to be your wild-self with sex. You can be submissive without being "controlled"... and it's SO MUCH FUN!!

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  • AutumnEquinox
    10 years ago

    I LOVE IT when my boyfriend gives me a stern look and tells me to do something. I love being held down while he fucks me. He is no where near insecure! He is a dominate guy and like to be in charge. He even keeps my credit card with him, because he knows I have little self control. And I am so thankful he loves me enough to do that! And before anyone says if he really loved me he'd help me gain my own self control, but he does that too. I have to control online spending on sites that have my card info saved.

    I love it when he tells me to get him something to drink. I always know that I could say no, but I don't want too. Actually I feel bad when I don't ask him if he wants something before he tells me he does.

    I think that what you said in your original post in completely normal!

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  • TwoThumbs
    10 years ago

    You have an awful lot of rules for wanting someone to be controlling over you. Are you sure you don't want to be the controlling one?

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  • st2013de
    10 years ago

    I prefer my boyfriend to tell me what to do, not for sexual reasons, just so I know I'm not getting on his nerves.

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  • Fall_leaves
    10 years ago

    Every once in awhile I have the desire to control a man. I think it's normal, why not play out your fantasy and see what it's like.

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  • loopoo
    10 years ago

    Don't think you could ask someone to be controlling, some men are some men aren't but as long as he treats you right, doesn't abuse you, then why not.

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    I knew it. Every woman secretly wants to be raped, it's their fantasy

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    • Fall_leaves
      10 years ago

      My fantasy is to rip off you penis and make you eat it.

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    • noid
      10 years ago

      Um no. And where'd you get the idea that OP speaks for every woman?

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    • Bubbles3
      10 years ago

      Raped? No this has nothing to do with wanting to be raped! It has to do with wanting to be controlled by a man in and out of bed. Being raped is against your will. This is giving all your control to the man. And plus it wouldn't be called raped because if its their fantasy then it obviously its just foreplay. And not every women wants it dumb ass...

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