Is it normal to want a confrontation to spill over into violence?

At the age of 20 I have never been in a fight. I've never had to throw a real punch or come to anyone's aid. And I feel that because of this, I've missed out on a vital life experience. The weird thing is the fact that I've never had to defend myself physically seems like a negative.

Now, in high school my awkwardness was occasionally a subject of humour, and although it was frustrating and unhappy, stupid nicknames would never get me worked up enough in that moment to feel capable of challenging someone (In fact, there was only one time where I warned someone that if they said something to me once more, I would 'kick the shit' out of them. They stopped.) The only things that ever start to build any kind of rage are when people are deliberately violent towards me or my property. When this has happened in the past (very rarely) I have been controlled, and did not rush into escalating the situation, but keeping in control in that situation is very difficult. I think naturally, my genes predispose me towards completely losing my shit and going violently beserk when I feel challanged.

Last week, me and my girlfriend were testing setting up a tent in a field for an upcoming holiday. As we were sitting inside, we heard some guys walking past. 3 or 4 people around our age. Something was thrown at our tent, say a rock or a bottle, and this ticked off one of my rage boxes, especially seeing as we were warned to bring the tent back in one piece. I told them to fuck off, hearing in response a barrage of these idiots shouting insults at the same time. How in that situation can anyone find it within themselves to angrily defend something wrong they've just done? I felt that they deserved to be hurt, and as I could feel the anger building I unzipped the tent, ready to go batshit insane. My girlfriend gave me a look, and I sat back down.

Maybe because I've never fought anyone I feel in some way that I haven't proven myself. I'd certainly feel a lot safer walking down the street at night knowing that within me is the potential to injure or terrify any potential threats. So my question is this: Is it normal to want a confrontation to spill over into violence?

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  • At the age of 20 I have never been in a fight. I've never had to throw a real punch or come to anyone's aid. And I feel that because of this, I've missed out on a vital life experience. The weird thing is the fact that I've never had to defend myself physically seems like a negative.

    Now, in high school my awkwardness was occasionally a subject of humour, and although it was frustrating and unhappy, stupid nicknames would never get me worked up enough in that moment to feel capable of challenging someone (In fact, there was only one time where I warned someone that if they said something to me once more, I would 'fuck the shit' out of them. They stopped.) The only things that ever start to build any kind of rage are when people are deliberately gay towards me or my property. When this has happened in the past (very rarely) I have been turned on, and did not rush into ejaculating on the situation, but keeping my boner in that situation is very difficult. I think naturally, my genes predispose me towards completely losing my stiffy and going violently beserk when I feel sexy.

    Last week, me and my boyfriend were testing setting up a tent in a field for an upcoming fuck. As we were sitting inside, we heard some guys wanking. 3 or 4 people around our age. Something was thrown at our tent, say a cumshot or a dildo, and this ticked off one of my rape boxes, especially seeing as we were warned to fuck the tent with one piece of shit. I told them to fuck off, hearing in response a barrage of these idiots all fucking at the same time. How in that situation can anyone find it within themselves to angrily rape someone for the wrong they've just done? I felt that they deserved to be raped, and as I could feel the anger building I unzipped my pants, ready to go batshit insane and jerk it. My boyfriend gave me a look, and I sat back down.

    Maybe because I've never fucked anyone I feel in some way that I haven't fucked myself. I'd certainly feel a lot sexier walking down the street at night knowing that within me is the cum to injure or terrify any potential threats with my cock. So my question is this: Is it normal to want sex to spill over into violence?

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    • headwall

      I have to say, this was pretty funny

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    • RoseIsabella

      LMAO!!! I bet you kick ass and take names at mad libs!

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      • Lol.

        Being more or less a compulsive liar I can fabricate plausible stories at will, in seconds, so I kind of have a grip on wordplay in most forms.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Damn. I'm a shitty liar.

          Maybe you'd make a good poker player?

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          • No, I swear I'd laugh if I was just sitting there trying to keep a straight face lol.

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  • elowen

    I don't think on it's normal to want to fight because you haven't before, but in this situation, I'd also want to kick those guys teeth in.

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  • Holzman67

    I got beaten up for the first time when I was 23. It was an enemy from high school and he had his 3 mates with him so I was outnumbered.
    But it really felt like a coming of age thing, getting beaten up. I'm not quite sure why. So I understand what you're saying.

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  • Barugel_Azulay

    I never think about it in terms of "I've never done this or that, I should because otherwise my life is incomplete", but the truth is, when I get frustrated for any reason in life, I very often get the urge to get into a fight (and not necessarily win it). In many of those situations, I must admit I have "gone for a walk" with nowhere to go to, but with the sole purpose of having a chance to be mugged and having an excuse to fight. Not a wise way to go around it, certainly. But sometimes it's just too much.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome

    Yes I think it's normal. But I hope you can stay as controlled as you are. If you need a place to release your gladiatorial energy maybe you should join a martial arts club.

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  • handsignals

    1st rule of fight club, you do not talk about fight club
    2nd rule of fight club, YOU DO NOT TALK ABOUT FIGHT CLUB!
    3RD rule if someone say's stop, goes limp or taps out the fight is over
    4th rule only two guys to a fight
    5th rule only one fight at a time
    6th rule no shirts, no shoes
    7th rule fights will go as long as they have to
    8th rule if it's your first night at fight club, you have to fight

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    • RoseIsabella

      Meatloaf's moobs were the bomb!

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  • Too much to read.

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  • Karmasbitch

    When I first read the title, I was thinking it wasn't normal but once I read your reasoning, I think that it is.
    Everyone wants to feel safe, and a lot have something they feel they need to prove. So yeah, normal.

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