Is it normal to want a confrontation to spill over into violence?
At the age of 20 I have never been in a fight. I've never had to throw a real punch or come to anyone's aid. And I feel that because of this, I've missed out on a vital life experience. The weird thing is the fact that I've never had to defend myself physically seems like a negative.
Now, in high school my awkwardness was occasionally a subject of humour, and although it was frustrating and unhappy, stupid nicknames would never get me worked up enough in that moment to feel capable of challenging someone (In fact, there was only one time where I warned someone that if they said something to me once more, I would 'kick the shit' out of them. They stopped.) The only things that ever start to build any kind of rage are when people are deliberately violent towards me or my property. When this has happened in the past (very rarely) I have been controlled, and did not rush into escalating the situation, but keeping in control in that situation is very difficult. I think naturally, my genes predispose me towards completely losing my shit and going violently beserk when I feel challanged.
Last week, me and my girlfriend were testing setting up a tent in a field for an upcoming holiday. As we were sitting inside, we heard some guys walking past. 3 or 4 people around our age. Something was thrown at our tent, say a rock or a bottle, and this ticked off one of my rage boxes, especially seeing as we were warned to bring the tent back in one piece. I told them to fuck off, hearing in response a barrage of these idiots shouting insults at the same time. How in that situation can anyone find it within themselves to angrily defend something wrong they've just done? I felt that they deserved to be hurt, and as I could feel the anger building I unzipped the tent, ready to go batshit insane. My girlfriend gave me a look, and I sat back down.
Maybe because I've never fought anyone I feel in some way that I haven't proven myself. I'd certainly feel a lot safer walking down the street at night knowing that within me is the potential to injure or terrify any potential threats. So my question is this: Is it normal to want a confrontation to spill over into violence?