Is it normal to want a break from your relationship?

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I've been dating my bf for almost 8 months now & wow can I say what a roller coaster! Our first 3 months we were long distance (he was in Seattle, WA) then he moved down to FL (for me of course) & we started practically living with e.o. ( I would spend the WHOLE entire day at his house & sometimes even sleep over). Well recently, (I would say a month & a half) his mom came down from Seattle. She's currently going through a divorce with her husband (who might I add is a drug addict) She is currently homeless & she has a 8 month old baby, 12 year old girl & my 20 year old boyfriend.

When she came down here, EVERYTHING went crazy. Going from living with e.o & having the best time of our lives to hell. We barely even get the chance to talk e.o on the phone for a full blown conversation everyday. Everything went hectic & confusing & I guess it was a big hit on our relationship. My trust, my appreciation for him, & even my love started to fade away.

So I took a small (2-day) break. Yeah isn't nothing but for us I think it's enough. (his b-day is in like 4 days & plus we HAVE to see each other in 3 lol b/c of a party)

Do you think what I did was right? I mean I do love him but in reality my love is starting to fade. His mom is great but she's just really getting in between everything we had. I know she's going through a horrible time in her life (she used to have everything until her husband lost it all due to his illness) & my bf is just there helping her with it & going to college.

What's your opinions. I would really like to hear it.

Thanks <3

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    Sounds like you're wanting to break up with someone who puts his family first, I mean if that's not a sign that you've found a truly caring man I don't know what is. Relationships are hard, if you think you've got it bad think of what it must be like for him right now. He needs someone to be there for him now too. Oh and breaking up near any holiday or birthday is just adding insult to injury. You need to realize that yes it is hard, but yes it will pass and if you love him and can see him doing the same for you one day when you're his family when you need that kind if help; he certainly sounds like a jewel to me.

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  • AutumnSoulwise
    12 years ago

    There are always going to be times in a relationship where your "strength" will be tested. Sounds like this could be one of those times. Loving your boyfriend isn't really the issue here, the issue is his "baggage", you know his mom and her baggage that she dragged into your lives. Love isn't always sunshine and roses. Love is unconditional, and if you can't stand by your man right now, when he needs you the most, then you aren't in love anymore. You can love someone without being "in love". That is what you have to ask yourself. Are you in love? Or do you just love him? Or do you just want it to be over and move on. Where are you in this relationship, and what do you want from it? Don't stay just for the sake of staying... But, if you are still in love with this man, do not give up on him and the relationship. Work through this, and grow together instead of apart.

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  • gloomydust
    12 years ago

    I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and its also been a roller coaster. I've been thinking about taking a long break or something. You're just not happy with him and you're looking for more. You should talk to him about this and see if there's anything you guys can do. Don't wait , you will get more attached. Just leave if you think the time is right

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