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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. I'm 18 and he is 20. A few weeks ago we started joking about having a baby, but now we're actually having serious conversations about it. Is it normal to want to start a family so young?
It's normal. For fuck's sake though, wait.
Both of you need to have a stable way to provide, shelter, food and clothe any children you may have. It may seem like all hugs and cuddles now, but you don't want to be one of those adults who has a kid and is struggling to provide the bare necessities. It is a sad lifestyle.
You'll be happier if you wait.
Like my parents struggled all through their late teen (mom was 18 when they got married dad was 21) into their twenties and even into their thirties to make a stable home and be able to COMFORTABLY provide. All my older siblings really suffered and sacrificed growing up to help my parents out.
I'd suggest you wait. It's not that I don't believe you're serious or could be good parents. But I doupt you can already provide a stable enough environment to raise kids.
With divorce rates what they are today, I'd be ever so cautious about that decision. When you add a kid, your relationship with this guy will change radically and you two are probably not old enough to accept those changes yet. Remember, though you may have been together for 4 years, they were not "real life" years, but school years, where all your needs were taken care of by your parents and you two had few responsibilities other than school.
You havent even experienced life, your 20s are some of the best years. You change mentally a lot and start seeing things as an adult and learn more about life.
Best thing, is to wait a few more years until you are stable in your life.
I think it depends on how serious you are about having children. When i was at that age, having my own family with someone was the ultimate goal. Now however its more about whether or not i can afford that weight and especially whether or not i feel comfortable with my children living in this society...
Yeah. Wait. And when you ARE ready, adopt. Is passing ur genes on more important that an orphan being fed broken glass?
In the old days women (I use that term quite liberally) would have children when they were practically children themselves. So I don't think your situation is abnormal in any way, your body is physically prepared for pregnancy and childbirth, now whether or not you and your boyfriend are emotionally and psychologically ready to have a baby is another question
Do you have jobs and a place to live? Or are you still living off of mommy and daddy?