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Ever since i was in HS I like dreaming that one day I'll meet my dream guy, the one that'll marry someday. But I just don't know when.
I'm my experience it's the people who are looking who don't find it.
Just focus on you. Build a life outside of romance that you are in love with. Once you're doing what you love and living a full filling and good life and you're comfortable with yourself then you'll have a shot at finding that kind of love.
Searching for it will just make you look desperate and miss out on enjoying the rest of your life.
It's normal to think this way, especially as girls. We were raised on fantasy stories and romance movies that almost always have happy endings.
I'm not saying that the perfect guy isn't out there for you. I'm not saying this at all. I believe in love. Maybe I'm just a sucker for it all, too.
I know someone I feel a deep connection to. Sometimes I feel as though there is a string binding me to this person. Obviously that isn't true. In an oddly conflicting twist, I don't believe in destiny.
I can't find reasons why I believe in this love so strongly. I feel a deep longing to be with him. I want to hear his heart beat(I don't mean that in a creepy way. I mean I want that peaceful, complete, closeness.) I ache for it, have dreams about such utter wholeness. He resembles everything I want in a man.
I see the signs that he likes me the same. That we will have the opportunity to give it a try soon. Right now we are at flirting and making eyes/long, lingering eye contact. Special smiles and warm words. I get so fuzzy inside. It tickles me. I have to step outside my comfort zone and into his. I know he'll let me, I'm just afraid of putting myself out there.
If you seek it, you will find it. You can't wait for it to find you. If you think you see it, you have to go for it, or you may lose it completely. Life doesn't always give you a second chance and everyone is moving through time. Just keep your eyes peeled and be ready for it when it comes and don't settle if you don't think someone is right for you. If it feels wrong, it probably is. But don't look for reasons not to like someone, because you want or like someone else. You could equally be throwing out the person who is right for you. Love is confusing. You have to feel it out. :)
Anybody who believes this lives in fantasy land and not the real world. Stop taking those romance movies so literally, they are meant to entertain you, they are not a portrayal of real life.
You can think about this all you want and dream about it and want it, etc...
Its not something that happens in real life. Its few and far between the married couples who are still really happy, and truly do still love each other, sure they put on a facade in front of people and in public, you really dont know how it is unless you see them alone in their homes.
and there is this...you find ur dream guy and realize you don't love him at all. keep ur eyes open :)
And I'm with the first comment. They come when your not looking. Your heart and mind never stops looking but your actions should be of taking care of the things you need to for you to ready when he comes and be patient. Revaluate your list with a friend or two to make sure you're being realistic. Funny thing is no one will ever fully know what Mr right looks like because no one really knows themselves as much as you'd like to think.
My parents got divorced when I was seven. My dad checked out and I was a big daddys girl so I got some deep emotional neglect from it. My mom hated me cuz I reminded her of him. I dreamed I would find a good dad for a husband one day. All I wanted to be was a mommy and a wife in a strong family. However this took a great toll on me too because I would fight sooooo hard even for bad relationships to work when it failed I grew incredibly depressed because once again I had failed. And my life dream was gone. So was my purpose and drive in life. Then I wised up and analyzed. Why did we fail. I picked all the bad things I did and they did apart. Figured out what I want, what I can compromise on and what I absolutely cannot handle. I had gotten to where I could sit down at a dinner & tell he was it or wasn't because of who I am or he is. I found him one day. We dated a yr and I realized I was off by a bit. Added to my list willing to forgive everything and no jealousy. I never told them guys what I was looking for other than the general connection answer because if they are digging you they'd like to think they can be what you seek and will mostly say yes which later you see is not the case. I asked questions about life experiences on the subject and how they handled them. Some women are like he needs to be blond blue 6' make this much feel this way about kids etc. While something are very important (do they have goals like yours or child rearing ideals like yours) 6' not 5'8 or blue eyed not brown eyed are the reason why some people miss their true night in shining armour. Don't give up I didn't find him till I was 30. And he is amazing and all those dreams I had came true. He was done with love but he said he just knew I was right. He didn't even feel that way about his ex. He passed everything plus more! I'm a stay at home mommy now. I have one girl, expecting a boy in 7 weeks, and two awesome stepboys who proposed to me when they met me. Will you marry my dad!? When I mess up he's patient with me. He loves me and fights for us. I always loved military and he's a master sgt. Super gorgeous and I had originally thought wow he's more than I dreamed he can't be for me. I still check my finger to make sure. I had told my ex next time I'm getting married. I was so close. Each one of my relationships were considerably better than the last. A sign you've got it. He's my full knight in shining armour!
There's no point "waiting" for a non-existent "dream guy"... you're not 7 years old or some sappy princess in a fairy tale!
Getr proactive! Hang out with boys and girls as much as possible, do a little casual dating so you get a clue as to what men and women are really like and why your "dream" other half is nothing more than a shitty myth designed to give people hoping to find love low self-esteem and could well leave you shackled in a boring, sexually and/or romantically unfulfilled relationship for the rest of your life.
I agree with fralanasko. Focus on you and he will show up when you least expect it.
normal...unfortunately because the 'dream person' is a total myth. You are at risk for some serious heartache if you go into every relationship convinced that that person will be 'the one'. Relationships take practice and work, even when people are very compatable.
Everybody will have great points and shitastic points to them, as do you (and me). There will also be several people you meet who could work out for you.
Just stay open and realistic and don't put up with any abuse because you've foolishly convinced yourself he's 'the one'