Ask Your Question today
It it normal to visit cam girl websites behind girlfriends back? Is this addiction cheating? Or do most think harmless
I wouldn't consider a normal porn site cheating at all, but if you're interacting with the girls on this site, I think that pushes it into gray area. And the fact that you're doing it behind your GF's back makes it that much more suspect.
It depends really.
If you're masturbating with a live partner then yes to me that's cheating.
But if you're just jerking off to a video then no.
Really, it's not like there is a relationship with the girls, I guess it's just live porn in my mind, but I don't want to do the wrong thing, so I might seek help for this addiction. It is my way of having variety without cheating.
I' m normally very understanding but in all honesty, I'd probably leave you. All girls have imsecuritys, She's your GIRLFRIEND. Have sex with her instead of jerking off all day, make her feel beautiful instead of making some random video hoe feel like she has your attention.
Yeah its normal, my husband of sixteen years, looks at it when he thinks I'm asleep. But it's ok with me, it improves our sex life. Tell your girl that. Holla Back!
It's normal dude. Every man goes to porn sites. To check out pics and videos and jerk off. Whether you are interacting with the girls or just jerking, its normal. We all have fantasies and desires. We go to these sites to fantasize, online you can be any kind of man you want or wish to be. If there were no porn sites and adult book stores stocked with magazines and videos, us guys would be very grouchy, frustrated, angry and living weights 24/7.
I've jerked it to chaturbate a couple times before but a couple of weeks ago, I purchased a private show. I turned on my video feed, so we could interact while we both masterbated. I was into it but after it was over I felt completely dirty and yes I feel I cheated and yes I confessed. It will be a one time thing for sure, didn't like I felt afterward at all.
you're not screwed up. As TwoThumbs says, there is free porn available. Search around for some that will satisfy you so you can "take care of business" without any cost. It's available for the taking.
Yeah...its definitely not cheating (in my opinion) but it's a waste of money. Also, It's a bit more personal so it could easily really piss her off. Stick to free porn on the internets. It's free and much better quality than the cam girls.
I have a friend who's wife saw that he was looking at pretty normal porn on the internet and she almost divorced him. My wife on the other hand knows that I'm human and watch porn. I would hope that she does the same. If you can't handle your partner looking at porn you need to look at yourself because you've got to deal with some pretty heavy insecurities. That said. Porn isn't real people, you know. It's like watching a big A list blockbuster. You're never going to meet these people. But when you're chatting in a window with someone you're meeting them. So I take back everything I said. It could be emotionally cheating depending on how you're interacting with these girls. Also, watch real porn. It's not grainy...its well lit...and the girls aren't chain smoking.
Science.
Thanks for the advice. I will try to stop, but there are some very hot girls with cam sites, and the picture is pretty good quality. It is expensive, but fun. I look at as going to a strip joint without leaving the house, and getting to jerk off. I should probably be single, I am screwed up
You're not screwed up. You're a normal guy. The problem is we live in a porn culture. It's everywhere and way too easy to access. Release feels good...so why wouldn't we want to always be taking care of it? The problem is...its affecting your day to day life...then its a problem. This is a circumstance in which is does. What is more important. Your girlfriend or jerking off to cam girls? That's the question you need to ask yourself. You can watch any other (legal) porn on the internet and be guilt free so why not do that instead of feeling like an a-hole every time you want to take care of business. All it is is harnessing self control.
if you're paying for porn you're going to the wrong websites then :-)
and i agree that if someone can't handle their partner looking then... that person has security issues.
actually it seems you have some of the same ideas that i have - where recorded porn is fine cos we're just watching, but interactive porn isn't fine cos we're participating and helping the other person have orgasms too.