Is it normal to use drugs & keep a family together? ?

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Hi, I'm 34 years old, been married for 10 years and together as a couple since high school. We have two children, 9 & 13
Crystal my wife is 33 years old.
We were high school sweet hearts, id use to pull bongs daily, Crystal would smoke weed if somebody would rolled a joint but that was rarely. Tho come Friday's, both Crystal and i would score speed or as we called it, "Louie" once we had we'd park the car anywhere, the busier the road was the safer we felt as we'd racking up lines on the back of AC/DC black CD and took turns snorting. The rush was quick to kick in, we'd clean our nasal passage by snorting down a little water, this also helped the chunks of power drop into our throats. Ciggies lite, windows down, music pumpin, bodies rocking as we moved from club to club.
Due to high demand of friend's wanted to score and a family member deep in the drug scene, Crystal and i found ourselves dealing speed pretty much full time. We made cash fast and spent it on clothes, jewelry and mid week short flights get aways. Because we had to b back for the weekend as this was when we'd make most of our cash. I was unemployed and apart from Crystals part time job at her father's business, we had a few thousand dollars to burn and slash around.
We began to gamble on horse, dogs, tattslotto and bingo. We'd drive instate to play the pokies or just to get better odds on a race. We were having the time of life's till we received a call informing us that a close and dear friend of ours O deed.! His heart stopped at the age of 24, they said it ran in the family but i think he died because the speed we were selling him :(( Crystal and i stopped dealing to others, i found a full timejob and Crystal went to work for her father.
At the 25years old we became proud parents, Crystals parents had thrown her out of home because i refused to be married before the baby was born. The first few months wit a baby that wouldn't stop crying coz of colic and wouldn't sleep more than 30mins at a time, is something i wouldn't want to go thru again!
Crystal and i married and our 15 month was our page boy :)) her family forgave us and helped us buy our 1st home. We still partied hard and hosted big weekend parties wen ever we wer kids free.
Currently i have givin up the weed but Crystal loves a few bongs 1st thing in the morning before she leaves for work lol and our party drug of choice today is METH/IcE.!
In 2012 due to bad investments, bank loans and i believe our drug habits. We were forced to sell our busy cafe and the house to pay off debits. We r now renting, our cars are out of registion, we've porned all our gold and jewelry. We have the best WiFi, pay tv boxes in every room, kids mobile phones, ipads, iPods. We are living way above our means!
I'm see a counciler, i have a drug problem and i love my family more than life its self!!
Crystal thinks I'm over reacting and doesn't believe we have a drug problem! She says it's ok to puff ice because we work hard and don't party or go out much anymore.
I'm sick of being broke and wasting money on ice, when our kids are at the age where we need to focus on their needs, I'd hate myself if our kids end up using coz they may of seen us doing it!
I will get my life back on track without drugs, in order to get myself clean, i must detete all contacts and distance myself from all my ice smoking friends!
Crystal doesn't understand or doesn't believe i'll leave her, if she continues to use iCe!
Truth is I'm worried about my family, my wife can not financilly feed and live without me!
I love my wife but we're sinking, I don't know what to do..

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  • kingsleycrowne
    11 years ago

    I really hope that you can truly be ready to let it go. You have to just seriously make up your mind and stop, you have to cut out ALL the people in your life that do bad shit. Even if you feel guilty to not be around someone who's a bad influence on you. You just have to. You have to be selfish right now and think of yourself and your family...for real though change your number delete all contacts that will allow you to contact anyone in the drug world...you can do it, just get busy.
    It helped me when I was getting sober to say to my self when I was craving that drugs will always be there and I'm just going to stay clean today and then the next day, but when you have hard days staying away just tell yourself that drugs will always be around and that your just going to stay sober one more day...then eventually it will be so many days you stayed clean you won't have to tell yourself shit about drugs, being clean is for real the best feeling and you can do it, just imagine losing your kids and your family for that shit...that's not worth it. good luck bro and I know that you can do this!

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    • Puffin4+10yrs
      11 years ago

      Thank you so much for your kind words and advise, it gives me strength to know I'm not alone and there's lite at the end of the tunnel, your the prof!
      A lots happen since my first post, it's gotten worst at home, tho I'll spare reads from the shocking details.
      I cant leave her and the kids at this point in time due to financial commitments. I am seeing someone, its helping tho i have a long way to go, i found that talking about stuff rather than bottling it up is a huge help! I've giving myself 3 months to get clean and back on truck, I've told her of my plan's and she becomes aggressive and can get abusive.
      I'll be alright mate! Thanks again and i'll check out that site u suggested.
      Cheers,
      Rob.

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  • kingsleycrowne
    11 years ago

    I bet your wife hears the "crystal meth" joke all the time. I was a meth user and I'm battling it day by day. Its like that, its a terrible drug and addiction is so complex. You need to quit, I think you already know that. And you need to convince your wife to, too. There's alot of good helpful stuff available on the net, with just a google search. Heres a link to one of these sites;
    <a href="http://sfjaye.freewebspace.com/whats_new.html" rel="nofollow">http://sfjaye.freewebspace.com/whats_new.html</a>
    But there are many more. Seek professional help, drug counselling, rehab etc. If you see a psychiatrist he may put you on an anti depressant which will help stop the things that trigger relapses. That's another option. If you run into trouble with your wife over conflicting views about getting clean, then maybe you should see a marriage counsellor about that, and air out everything in front of a professional. You could get some really proactive advice that could carry your relationship forward on a more mutual understanding. I wish you strength. Remember that man has never made any material as resilient as the human spirit and it is at our darkest moments we must focus to see the light. Health is your greatest possession and confidence your greatest friend.

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  • teendicksuckers
    6 years ago

    No but its normal to use sex

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  • Arther.D
    11 years ago

    Crystal does meth? Sure is a right name.

    Here's my advice : you're 34, stop acting as if you were 20.

    (First step : stop saying "lol")

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    • Puffin4+10yrs
      11 years ago

      LOL

      Arther D, D is for dick head rite!

      Stick your advice up ya arse mate, if u got nothing helpful to say, mind your own business then!

      LOL

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