Is it normal to use a dating site as a confidence booster?

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Hey so I recently made an account on an online dating site and every few hours I check to who messaged me or looked at my profile. It makes me feel good about myself that I'm getting this attention

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    All men are whores.
    All women are (attention) whores.

    This is why women flock to social media, why they want to go 'traveling' and why they instagram any dinner they eat at a restaurant: they are addicted to getting validation from others.

    On a primal level, being "attractive enough to mate with" = the main goal of a woman for the survival of the species. So it is no wonder that self-esteem is so tied to body image for girls at a young age.

    So OP, if you are a girl then you are acting absolutely normal. If you are a guy, then you need to seek your validation from inside (not so easy).

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    Completely normal. You enjoy attention and you get it. How would this be abnormal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    If I did that I would get even more depressed. I tried dating apps once but couldn't go on a date coz no one showed interest.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Yep, also why I started camming

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I'm interested in that, I could use the extra money. And making videos. I need to take the time one day to learn more about it

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      • rayb12
        6 years ago

        Not much to it lol. To use chaturbate as a model all they need is a scan of your I.D. and a picture of you holding it next to your face. Then typically within a week they'll verify you and you can begin your show.

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    So I guess you must be gorgeous. Congratulations, you won the genetic lottery.

    Thing is, it's very unlikely you will remain physically stunning for the rest of your life. You're definitely going to be older tomorrow than you are today, and youthful appearance is a large component of attractiveness in modern Western culture.

    If your opinion of your own value is based on how others judge your physical attractiveness, you're going to have a difficult life in the long-term.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      It is unhealthy to solely base one's worth on how attractive they are.

      However, as someone who is overcoming self-esteem and confidence issues, I find it therapeutic to see that people do, in fact, see me as attractive.

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      • JonathanOo
        6 years ago

        Yup it's normal. Unless NOBODY shows interest or likes you, then you realize that your life sucks:( People use Facebook And Instagram pictures for this as well

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      • rayb12
        6 years ago

        Can I say I feel like both of you just articulated your sentiments so perfectly.

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  • Britneywolf
    6 years ago

    Of course it's normal. Seeing people who want to chat with you and think you are attractive boosts your self esteem.

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