Is it normal to truly be in love with someone overseas?

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I am from Australia and under 19 years of age, and recently i met a girl online from America. At first we were just friends but we both came to love each other. Not only is this normal, but is it realistic? A part of me says it will be hard for her to move here (she already plans to but i have no clue how). I just have no clue what to do, i don't want to tie her down or anything.

Any advice is appreciated, and honesty is expected.

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  • Ms.Caffinated
    7 years ago

    You may correct me if any of my assumptions are incorrect :)
    Honestly, as much as it sucks I don't think it'll work out. I'm assuming you spend a lot of time talking to her, so much so that you hardly even give the girls around you a chance or you may not be popular to them to begin with. She gives you the attention you so badly want and in turn she feels like your world. The time will pass when the talks get less and the feeling are more distant.
    Its infatuation, I'm assuming you've only been talking for about less then 8 months? Eventually one of you will get very desperate and anxious for the other persons presence and someone's going to get jealous over something they seen on the others social media account.
    Its normal to feel this way, especially if your a misunderstood teen who always seems like second best.

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    • Voyageur
      7 years ago

      You are correct. What do you suggest i do? Leave her? We have fun talking to each other for now, but i see what you mean and have thought about it too. Thanks for the honesty Ms.Caffinated

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      • Ms.Caffinated
        7 years ago

        Ride it out, enjoy every moment talking to her. The cut off will be gradual over time, schedules clash, messages left unanswered kinda thing and there's no reason you have to hurry it along unless you start catching feelings for someone in your area.
        Enjoy this little love because the sweet innocent relationships are some of the best memories to look back on when your older.

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        • Ellenna
          7 years ago

          Two great responses I wish I'd written!

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  • SirChazwickEsquire
    7 years ago

    You are young and you may be setting yourself up for extreme heartache and disappointment. You really believe this girl is going to wait for you?

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  • Alexbelarus
    7 years ago

    Fuck online relationships make me sad. Best of luck to you guys, honestly

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  • _Mehhhh_
    7 years ago

    I can see if maybe you had sparked a relationship while in the same country, then for some reason one had to leave and you carried on long-distance. That would be normal.

    For someone you've literally never met though? No, weird. Sorry, I just don't think you can fall in love with someone purely over online conversations. It's good borderline-romantic friendship or just lust, at best.

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  • finn
    7 years ago

    Even if she gets there, what are you going to do? How will you live? Do you have a job? A flat? All these real life concerns will get in the way of your romance.

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