Is it normal to trick my boyfriend into having a baby with me?

Don't forget that kid's life too! The kid will grow up probably without a dad once he finds out what she has done and leaves, and be forever unloved by one or both of it's parents through no fault of it's own. Maybe it won't even ever know or meet it's real father?

It won't turn out well for her either. Single mother living off her ex-boyfriend's child support money isn't exactly a high-class lifestyle.

Not forgetting, as you rightly say, her boyfriend's life too. Why she'd WANT to trick her "best friend", who she also claims to love, into making a life-ruining decision for her own selfish needs is beyond me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=4F4qzPbcFiA i love you

Established in a career that at most he's been doing for 9 years, and you've been doing for 5? Thats a major risk if your living in the USA. With the way the economy is going I'm surprised you still have work. Unless you have a few hundred thousand saved up to live on, medical bills, and childcare bills, you aren't financially stable yet.

If my girlfriend mentioned the word baby, I'd stop having sex with her. I know I'm not ready for a kid. If he doesn't want a baby, you should be respectful of his wishes. It might be more than his past making him think the way he does.

If your lonely or the need becomes overwhelmingly strong, volunteer your time helping kids in your community. Boys and girls clubs, big brother & sisters, even baby care...hell even your local elementary school, all of those places need as much help as they can get. It might not be your own, but it would help alleviate some of the drive. My parents were 36 and 34 when they had me. All my friends/cousins/family were in their 30's. Nothing wrong with waiting.

For your info:

The government calculated the cost of raising child . . .
. . . from birth to 18 and came up with $160,140 for a middle income family. Talk about sticker shock. That doesn't even touch college tuition. For those with kids, that figure leads to wild fantasies about all the things we could have bought, all the places we could have traveled, all the money we could have banked

if not for (insert child's name here). For others, that number might confirm the decision to remain childless.

But $160,140 isn't so bad if you break it down. It translates into $8,896.66 a year, $741.38 a month or $171.08 a week. That's a mere $24.44 a day.

Just over a dollar an hour. Still, you might think the best financial advice says don't have children if you want to be rich.