Is it normal to throw up when his ex-wife calls him?

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I am currently engaged with an older guy, he has a past (kid & ex-wife) and I don't. She lives in a different city but in the same state about 6 hrs. away.
She calls him constantly even though it has nothing to do with their son. sometimes it's all about her not even a mention of the son. she calls him just to tell him about things such as "I want to buy this car", "I want a motorcycle", "I'm on a diet right now" etc.
Well the thing is that my fiance barely talks to his kid (she doesn't let him txt or talk on the phone with him)and talks more to his ex (because she calls him only). I mean I wouldn't care if they were friends, but the thing is that they're not, she insults him, makes fun of him and his family,tries to turn her kid against me by talking bad about me, and she has even insulted me, but all of a sudden she wants to be friendly.
Sometimes we will be eating and she calls him and doesn't care that he's eating, sometimes we are being intimate and she interrups us just to talk about something stupid.
The other night she call him almost at midnight, we were already sleeping and she woke us up, just to talk about her life. I mean it's really starting to bother me and ruin our relationship, since he's afraid to do something about it because of fear that she might not let him talk to his kid on the phone or see his kid. Anyways it has now gotten to the point that whenever she calls him, I start feeling sick of my stomach and it ruins my meals.
What should I do? I can't take it anymore! Is it normal to throw up because of her?

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  • alexisfreak
    14 years ago

    Girl, you should sue her ass! She is stalking you! You should tell her to f*ck off or you will sue. This is the only way. She is just jealous of him and is trying to ruin his life and undermine your engagement. SUE HER ASS!!

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    • Jen118584
      14 years ago

      Why would she sue her? Her boyfriend lets it happen. That wouldn't hold up for two seconds in court and would be a huge waste of time, not to mention that's a horrible idea to begin with.

      She is trying to put a strain on your relationship, deliberately. I understand that your boyfriend doesn't want to risk not being allowed to see his kid, but she legally can't do that. So speaking of suing, tell your boyfriend to man up and tell his ex-wife to back the fuck off. If she tries to act sheisty and tells him he can't see his kid, THEN you sue her. If he won't stick up for your relationship, this isn't worth your time.

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    • BugzBunnae
      14 years ago

      I completely feel you on that lol. But if you don't have the money for a case, tell her about it and ask (as nice as you can) to stop if she continues to harass your engagement its time to take this to physical matters....and you know what I mean. And about the throwing up, you are too stressed about it, I mean I'm a teenager but even I can sense severe stress levels

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Yeah - the ex sounds like a piece of work. I'd really get marital - this requires an objective & skilled 3rd party to help the 2 of you come up with & agree on a strategy.

    That you're twisted into knots while he's being emotionally blackmailed just isn't sustainable nor fair. And while you can try to work it out alone, I think you are both so affected that it'd be better to have a 3rd party.

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    I feel you.. This shit isn't that easy but you be confident and take control.. You can't be a masovhist and take all this shit. I am a guy and if some asshole calls my girl when we're intimate I'd totally let them both have a piece of my mind

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  • CarsGirlsGunsMoneyMade
    12 years ago

    Tell the winner of a fiance you have to either quit taking her sh*t and get her help or disregard her totally, save for his kid.

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  • happyB
    13 years ago

    I would think about dropping this guy, or at least holding off any marriage. Any man that does not have a lot to do with his kids is not going to be a good dad to yours, if you guys ever have any. And any man who can't cut ties with the ex should not be getting married again.

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago

    You got caller ID get her number call her when he is not there n tell the bitch to get off ur man

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  • kealewikaylay
    14 years ago

    maybe she's depressed and needs a counselor, tell her to call " kids help phone" lmfao, he's it's, and she already blew her chance with him.

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  • kealewikaylay
    14 years ago

    u tell the lady to f off

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  • hahakate
    14 years ago

    How long have you and this man been together? Because, it seems to me maybe you're a rebound? I hate to say it because I really don't know the situation, but maybe he's doing it to make the ex jealous (it's working!!) and he's hoping that it will strengthen their relationship, because she'll be longing for him...

    You should get a pre-nup. This is just screaming legal issues to me.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      umm...I would disagree with you on that bcuz they got divorced a long time ago and HE was the one to file for divorce. Even though she didn't wanna give him the divorce. I know she's jelaous though cuz she tells him that she is in love with him after cheating on him.And besides she's married now.

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  • lovelycasey
    14 years ago

    my boyfriends ex did that all the freakin time shed call him,, text him come up to his house and he told me he hated her she freakin drove me crazy i was gonnna marry him but he started acting different and lets juss say hes not with me anymore he went back to her... i was like what the fuuck she really pissed me off and thats when i wanted to throw up on herr u need to tell him to stop letting her call u or put her on speaker fone so u can listen u get involved or else he could fall for her ass again guys are stupid sometimes u need to fight for ur man dont let her take over ur relationship

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