Is it normal to think you won’t find someone better than your ex
I just broke up with my girlfriend and I think I’m obsessed with her
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(12 yes)
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Tommythecaty
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RoseIsabella
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Yowhatsupineedtotalk
It’s not that I feel depressed or something
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RoseIsabella
No, honey. You thought she was the perfect fit for you. She obviously didn't think ya'll were the best fit for each other, but that's okay, because there's probably someone out there who is a much better match for you.
I read in one of your other responses that you just recently broke up with your partner so the obsession part is probably quite normal for now, but if you feel the same way in about a month, or two you might need to seek some help.
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Yowhatsupineedtotalk
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BleedingPain
Its natural to be upset and miss the person, but obviously they did not feel the same way as you do. You need to get professional help to help ease her out of your daily thoughts (and to not become the deranged ex lunatic.)
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miss_jass06
Yes, I think this is normal. I used to think the same after my last breakup and I was deeply convinced I won't find anyone better and that I was so lucky to be with that guy. The grief lasted a lot for me though, like 2 months and I kept believing that it's just a separation and we didn't really break up. After some time I just decided to completely stop talking to him and I actually realized he was a jerk in many ways, which I couldn't see when I was in love. Now I have a new boyfriend and we are way better matched, it was worth waiting for. You will find someone better for yourself too, even if you don't even wanna think of it now. You will feel better soon :)
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Mini69
It’s natural to feel upset after a break up, even if you are the one that ended it, it can still sometimes feel upsetting. You just need to get on with life and keep busy. In a couple of weeks you will probably start to feel fine. Then you can just get on with life, you will probably meet someone else in the future that feels right.
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Yowhatsupineedtotalk
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bbrown95
If your breakup is recent, I think this is normal, as you're still processing your feelings. I also think the obsessive feeling may just be infatuation that you haven't gotten past.
Unfortunately, I think the only thing that truly helps is time and allowing yourself to process your feelings. If you fear you are becoming unhealthily obsessed and are unable to let go after an extended period of time, there's no shame in seeking help. However, if your breakup is recent, it will take time for the feelings to wear off and for you to completely move on.
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Yowhatsupineedtotalk
Yes it’s recent
Just yesterday
Now I feel really bad
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bbrown95
Don't feel bad, sometimes breaking up is for the best and it's better than stringing someone along and wasting both of your time if you know things aren't going to work out.
As for being friends, do what feels right to you. Some people can stay friends, and for others it feels like picking at a wound, per se. Or, you might need some time away to process the breakup before talking or hanging out as friends.
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RoseIsabella
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ellnell
Everyone feels that way after just getting dumped and news flash most of them are wrong but to even begin to realize you're wrong you have to stop obsessing over the person which is creepy by the way.
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