Is it normal to think you're attractive yet no one shows any interest

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I am a male...50 years old....I feel I look good..and not just for 50 but any age...I am tall...in shape...I dont have a complete 6 pack right now because of a long winter but I usually do...crytal blue eyes...good hair...teeth and skin...no wrinkles or blemishes, etc...good dresser...good job...nice car...funny...compassionate but strong..not a people pleaser ..witty.....I have hobbies and I am a kickboxer...not a world champion or anything but pretty good...yet, women dont even look at me ...I mean I know I have to make the first move but at least I need some eye contact or a smile or a hello....since I never get even that I have to assume they are completely not interested.....so is it normal to think your attractive yet no one is interested? And I not one of those people who cant see the real truth..I try to evaluate myself honestly. Im just confused thats all.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    At your age few women are going to give you any attention, in casual passing. Most your age come with a lot of baggage, and they really aren't looking for another jackass to get involved with. Not to say you are a jackass, but that's how they see a strange man after one or more failed marriages and bitter divorces.
    I doubt there are too many women much interested in kickboxing. My point being, your interests need to be more inline with what the women you are interested in, enjoy doing.
    I would suggest finding activities that are gal compatible. Sky diving, base jumping, motorcycle racing, are probably not good choices. Do some research in your area, and find some things you would enjoy participating in that the gals around you also enjoy.
    From personal experience, once we guys have reached 50, we are pretty much invisible to younger gals (no matter how good we think we look), and it takes hard work and patience to find that gem in the midst of pebbles to spend our remaining years with.
    Good luck.

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  • RainbowDischarge
    9 years ago

    Maybe you're so attractive that its intimidating.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      As ridiculous as it is, this does happen. I can relate.

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      • RainbowDischarge
        9 years ago

        Yeah. Even if I wasn't seeing someone I would actually never initiate contact with anyone I deemed hot as hell. My fear of rejection is strong, haha.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    9 years ago

    Shit you mean I could have gotten paid all these years ....son of a bitch!

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Do you brag? Maybe chicks think you're vain?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Im too great to brag....lol

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        I'm just sayin', but seriously, I think a lot of people brag thinking they're just gracing the rest of us with their presence or imparting us with their wisdom when they're in fact just being massive boors. I remember once this really attractive guy from my old job did nothing but talk about himself, and never asked me a thing. I told one of the office sluts about it, and she said, "oh girl, he's trying to impress you", but thing is I wasn't impressed.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          I definitely dont talk about myself...In fact one girl at my last job called me mysterious because I never talk about myself...I have a touch of narcissicism and adhd and bi polar... my narcissism is not the I am so great kind...in fact I have low self esteem as you can see...its the lack of empathy kind.....my adhd impacts my attention span and my borderline makes me quit anyone who causes me any pain...which is like EVERYONE.....but But knowing these things about myself...I haveworked at being a good listener, empathic, and forgiving....the exact opposite of my old reaction...thats kinda what hurts even more...it took my a lot of work...a lot of work to get where I am...I grew up severely neglected and poor and somtimes abused...I havebeen in jails and mental institutions...but I now have a college degree , a good job, a good physique, a nice personality, I still have some low self esteem and depression... but of that comes from my lack of having any relationships...but I definitely dont brag about myself

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            Borderline?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              9 years ago

              Borderline personality disorder...I have traits of it not the full disorder....its similiar to bi polar disorder....one usually causes the other....emotional disregulation...intense feelings of abondonment...suicidality.....splitting...unstable life and relationships

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  • breathingtree
    9 years ago

    At least you find yourself attractive, even if others don't.

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  • regisphilbin
    9 years ago

    Maybe they think you're taken and aren't interested in casual dating. I think there is a general expectation or perception that good looking people with good personalities are already in relationships and simply don't bother getting their attention as a result. I could be wrong about that, but I do know for a fact that lots of younger girls/women would love to get involved with older men (even checking out most posts on this site).

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