Is it normal to think "wtf" after this situation?

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Basically you might want a tad bit of background about me.
Im a guy and i am very fun loving but at the same time extremly nervous that i could screw up and make myself look like an idiot. Along with that i usually say the wrong thing to some stuff too quickly. Along with that I dont usually ask many girls out. I am very shy around girls.

Onto the situation!!!
At a party some DJ decided "Ah who cares! I am putting on some romantic slow dancing music!!!"
I got really nervous and one of my friends says "Man up and ask a girl out ya wimp"
So I focus my eyes on the woman of my dreams. I think for 5 hard minutes about what to say. When I do ask her I screw up and ask her really fast. She gets extremly surprised and slowly backs away. I assume she means a "no" so I turn around and walk away.

The next day it gets all around the town for some reason and everybody is asking how I managed to fail so badly.

I easily ignore them and think back to the night. Now I am really confused as to my next move or what I should do!!! Or even exactly what her reaction meant!!!

Is it normal to be in this kind of situation?

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Based on 41 votes (28 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Unless you find a way to deal with the nervousness you most likely will find yourself in similar situations over and over and over again.

    By asking really fast you came across as extremely nervous, i.e. unconfident or weak. There is almost nothing more unattractive to a woman than this. Dont attempt anything further with this particular girl, you shot your own foot off with her.

    On the next one, try to relax as much as possible, be prepared for rejection and just ask as naturally and calmly as possible. Practice by yourself and try to picture yourself ordering a cup of coffee instead of asking a girl out.

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  • vSlay3r
    12 years ago

    Wear a mask a cape a top hat and any other Oversized clothing /so basically dress like the people of harry potter

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  • aduusw
    12 years ago

    You dud ok until you turned around... U should have act as if you don't care... Whatever.

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  • Kookas
    13 years ago

    Women seek confidence and leadership qualities in men. You asking her really quick creeped her out. You killed it, there is no next step unless you want to seem desperate.

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  • Sabaky
    13 years ago

    Try to be mysterious like dress bad ass girls dig that unless their preps

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  • epiclyepic125
    13 years ago

    Your alot like me

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  • Askyouknow
    13 years ago

    WTF hahaha...don't get it over you and walk it off like a man learn from mistakes and they won't bother you when you are not bothered by them(wait is that even right) anyways you seems to be a cool guy so good luck with the next gal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I’ve been in that situation before.

    The best thing to do is get away from everyone, take a deep breathe, and relax. When you're up to it go deal with the situation and set things right. You could save yourself a lot of embarrassment if you dropped your fear of looking stupid and just did whatever you thought was right.

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  • Thatguy777
    13 years ago

    Yes. It's very normal to think "WTF?!" in this situation

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