Is it normal to think we'd be better off without eachother?

I bet that best friend of his shows his true colors at home. Some aspects of a person are only seen by their wife/husband. I doubt this guy is as perfect as you say he is, we all have our issues, and most of the time in front of other people, we lock them away

It is easy to be tempted. Your feelings are normal. You know the consequences if you act on it, so think of your kids.

Yep i think you should get as far away as possible.

Goodbye and Goodluck.

Well 1st of all get your damn story straight woman is he your husband (as u called him the 1st couple of times) or is he your boyfriend (like u called him toward the end of your story) 2nd u need to walk away cause messing with a mans heart & his best friend at the same time is not very popular or wise thing to do 3rd you'll not only fuck it up between u & him but also him & his friend as well as his friend & his friends family so that's a lot of destruction for u to just feel a little warm & fuzzy on the inside

I think that people in a relationship that is not fulfilling their needs but at the same time does give them a sense of stability ofte need the affection of a outhird-party to realize what is missing. It is a very difficult situation to be in because a lot is at stake at this point, but ignoring your feelings is not the answer. In the short run it might be a good decision considering that you will not be 'ruining'anything, but I think that in the long run such a situation will not last.. I would advise you to more closely consider if it is just the one person that makes you feel insecure about your situation, or if you would actually be interested in other people showing interest in you as a person.. When the second situation applies I would seriously consider changing the current status even though it seems stable.

You must kill them and yourself because your husband is a mind booger and he's giving his friend mind syrip. It is already effecting you, you must act quickly and cut off their heads. Nobody will believe you so you'll have to kill your children to make it look like the mind syrip was effecting their brains enough for them to cut their own heads off.

Run the hell away from both of them!

Wow, I appreciate your honesty but you're exactly the kind of girl that makes me not want to get married -ever.

I've been the 'hot fun energetic friend' to many of my friend's wives. They try to jump on me when my buddy goes out to store or wherever. I never reciprocate. So please stop trying to fool yourself saying it's not sexual. IT IS and inside you know it you just feel guilty cause you're married and you know it's wrong.

Here's the deal:

1. Never cheat on your husband especially with his friend or a married guy.
If you cheat on your husband with his friend you'd kill him internally. Forever. And you'd also steal away his best friend taking that from him too.

How thoughtful of you. You're really considerate of your man.

You already know it wouldn't last either so don't do it.

What a nice girl to kick her hubby when he's down such a great member of the female human race. What a role model.

2. Every long term relationship gets stale and even boring at times.
There's always other people you want to fuck.
That doesn't give you a green light to slut around.
There's a reason it's called making a commitment so do it.

3. As someone that was recently in a serious accident and was suffering chronic pain for along time I can tell you when someone's in pain it really fucks up their head and they aren't themselves. Being negative, not wanting to do anything or have sex, or whatever because movement causes the pain to be worse. It's hard not be in a foul mood. Even your thoughts are clouded by the constant pain when it happens. You start thinking about something and shit more pain again and now you're thinking about the pain cause it's fucking you up. You can fake it for awhile when around other people but it's this constant drain on your soul and you the pain sufferer still knows it's there and when you let your guard down it gets you. You may curse under your breath and be angry with GOD or whatever you believe in.

To help your husband with pain there's an over the counter product called Vinoprin. It's made from hops (like beer) but doesn't contain any alcohol so you don't get drunk or have any negative side effects. Surprise your husband and get it for him.
Show him you care. Order it online or go to your local health food store and they'll probably have a similar product but by a different company.

Let him know you care about him and his pain and you want to help and you're so sorry he feels so shitty.

Say something like this

"Honey I'm so sorry you're in pain I wish I could take it away from you and make you feel better. It hurts me to see you suffering and knowing you're in pain. I was doing some research online to see if anything would help and I bought this stuff that's supposed to relieve chronic pain. It's made from hops like beer but doesn't have any alcohol. Can you please try it? It might help."

If nothing else he'll appreciate (on some level) that you care and you're making an effort. Even if he just grumbles and is negative know that's the pain and somewhere in there he is very grateful for your help.

What you've done is kicked him when he's down:
You selfishly told him he's not satisfying you and completely ignored how fucked up he is. I understand you were trying to communicate which is great but maybe instead of making him feel like a loser by focusing on your own horny selfish needs you should just try flirting with him and do things like giving him a massage that will make him feel good.

Remember that little oath you took when you got married?

Some shit like "For better or for worse..."

Ok girl right now it's for worse so step up.
Your character is being tested and so far you're failing.

Many times if you want someone to be nice and fun to you the best way to get it from them is for you to always be nice and fun to them. Doesn't matter if he's rude or mean right now just keep being fun and flirty. It's a test. Sooner or later he will appreciate what you're doing and he'll try his best to snap out of it even though he'll still be in constant pain feeling shitty.

What you've done is basically say, "Hey guy, you're not good enough for me so I wanna fuck your best friend."

And you really think he's going to reply with "Gee sweetie you're so special to me. I'm so lucky to have you, I love you so much. Yum!"

Don't kid yourself he doesn't know you want to hook up with someone else.

Try and keep trying to make him smile or get horny by flirting with him. If you both like laughing watch some goofy movies together and cuddle. If nothing else do it for your family / kids.

Since he's in pain and probably can't move very well without hurting lay him down on the bed and lean him back then pull down his pants and give him the best blow job you've ever given him and tell him you love him. When I was injured pretty much any movement hurt and the only thing that didn't hurt was laying in bed not really moving much. Other things that take the pain away are things that feel incredibly good like sex or a bj. Or things that pump adrenaline that he can't do like skydiving, racing, etc.

Instead of being supportive here's what you did :

Him : "Honey I need help I just got mugged and stabbed in the back I'm bleeding all over the place!, call 911!"

You : "That's great honey but did you pay the electric bill and could you tell me some jokes cause I'm bored. Btw, your friend is cute can I fuck him while you're in the hospital?"

Shesh!

MAKE AN EFFORT GIRL.

I would say if after 1 year of really making an effort by being sweet to him and trying to help him relieve his pain he's still a dick, then think about leaving (not cheating) and tell him so. If he doesn't start being more fun and appreciative you can't handle it and gotta go.

Btw, my pain is pretty much all gone now but sometimes resurfaces in lesson forms. It's been about 3 years.

Also look into anti inflammatory things like tumeric ( a spice) and other natural health foods. Ask at the health food store.

Soooo

you might need a third man then