Is it normal to think that having sex with a girl is a bad thing?

lil bitch

dammmmm jus go do it man, the ladies are ready and waiting

Why is it wrong if it's pleasure? If you ask me pleasure that doesn't hurt anyone is a big part of what we live for. Think of it in a broader scope... We watch movies, shows, go swimming, play games, go out... When we want to have a good time, we to out seeking some kind of pleasure. And of course, there are pleasures of the flesh and those that are more metaphysical... But why would that ever be a bad thing?

Take my advise because I am a girl don't listen to boyracer88. He is a dumbass. Just take very small steps before you get a girl in bed with you. Did you take small steps huh?

Many ppl don't have much self control and it's all or nothing. In your case I would suggest "nothing" is better. stay away from the partying, a good girl will come your way. Have patience

You seem awesome :) there should be more guys like you.

I feel that way sometimes. The kind of women I like are very sensitive ones, so I just can't focus only in sex in a relationship. Anyways, I don't think sex is bad at all: It's nature. Women like sex too. That's why they do it.

Are you Catholic? That could explain away any shame. Just kidding. No, it's just that you were using drugs and alcohol as your confidence boost/ "liquid courage" before. Now you don't do that (hopefully) so you have to build up your own confidence. Wear something you know you look really good in, talk to girls you think are in your league (you may laugh, but seriously...you'll feel less insecure if you don't go for the Cindy Crawford in the room. That doesn't mean you have to talk to Ugly Betty for God's sake!) Your focus, (sorry, but you know this) shouldn't be just getting a girl in bed. How about getting some dates so you have one cute, nice, fun girl who wants to have sex with you all the time. ( A sure thing is not overrated).

just do it women like it they say they dont but its one of those things they do. It depends tho if u just want the sex and thats it do u at least try for a relationship i mean i bet u do. U might just be attracting uniteresting bimbos and that happens to me, go for the challange find that special one u really like and want to stay with untill it gets old. U have to remember we are animals too.

At least you maybe have a conscious & cgirl has put her finger on what it is: you are being a shallow sexist man whose view of a women is as a sex object for your gratification. It is about as mature as being a druggie.

So get some counseling around your shyness and how to go about forming true friendships & relationships. There is no short-cut to a real relationship - be it through drugs or sex.

Well, all I can say is as a woman, it sucks to deal with men whose sole focus is getting you in bed. You're probably making other women's lives suck.