Is it normal to think that dressing nice overrides being ugly?

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sometimes I feel like if only I dressed better or did my make up more neatly then people would see me in a new light. I wouldn't go unnoticed, I could be seen as attractive. I am moderately attractive, but nothing special. I have low self esteem and this contributes to my willingness to believe that I need to change the way I present myself.
Is it normal to think that you can overcompensate for being ugly with how much effort you put in to your appearance? I know it plays a role in our society, but I don't know if its normal that it matters to us. I'm conflicted between the need to accept who I am, and the belief that I can get people to want to know me better based on what I look like.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I dont think clothes can compensates for someones ugly-ness. Though yes its normal to feel the way you dress overrides your appearance.

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  • Frosties
    12 years ago

    You said you were moderately attractive, but said ugly both in the title and the body of the story. It's almost like a battle between what you know you are and this knee-jerk reaction that maybe you're ugly. You honestly have to get rid of that little voice whispering in your ear, telling you that you are ugly.

    Moderately attractive. Stick with that.

    And when you ditch the "ugly" thing, you can probably think about ditching "moderately" too.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      that was exactly what I needed to read right now. Thank you. I didn't even realize that my internal battle was reflected in this post. But I guess, inevitably, it is everywhere.

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      • Frosties
        11 years ago

        You're more than welcome. Nearly everyone goes through this, you know. I couldn't tell you the number of people who use the word ugly when they're actually genuinely beautiful to other people. It makes me want to lend them my eyes for five minutes so they could see them how I see them.

        If they ever invent an easy way for me to share my eyes, you're more than welcome to five minutes yourself. Although, in the long-term, it'd be better if you saw all your good points with your own eyes. :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    A Good Style enhances your character and coveys your inner beauty. I'm more attracted to girls when they dress really good even if they are not realty really hot. Their style can be enchanting and leave me feelings of wonder. Personality has to compliment it though

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  • yeoldefletcher
    12 years ago

    Dressing nicer is always more appealing, so I'd say yes. A well kept appearance is a more attractive appearance

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