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I am not scared of sex and that's not why I don't want it it's the fact that it grosses me out. I think the idea of going beyond kisses and hugs is revolting. Is this normal? Shouldn't I be... I don't know more 'turned on' or whatever? Is it normal to hate the idea of sex?
Asexuals do not particularly think sex is disgusting. It just doesn't interest them. xx
A lot of asexual people have a hard time finding out if the term fits them. I would like to know how old you are, but I won't press you to say. What your describing sounds like the experience that a lot of asexual people do have. Do you find (I'm assuming you like males) men sexually attractive? Are you ever turned on? Or is it more of an appreciation of their looks and romantic attraction.
Have you engaged in sex yet? If not, don't make a final decision on whether or not you find it revolting and hate it until you have tried it. That's like saying you hate a certain food just based off what it looks like, yet you have never even tasted it. There are a lot of people out there who DON'T like sex...and that's ok. It's not like you HAVE to have it and it's not like humanity is going to die off because you choose to abstain. There are plenty of us out there who love it. Besides, it's definitely one way of guaranteeing that you never get an STD! :) I don't think it's a problem so long as you don't get married...then it might be.
I answered "normal" but it depends on how you define normal. I think the majority of people wouldn't agree with you, but that doesn't mean your opinion is bad. There's nothing wrong with being grossed out by sex, honestly. It's something that's meant for you and your partner to feel good, and if it doesn't make you feel good, then it's not really for you, is it?
I'm the same way. I like sensual things like cuddling and kissing but not sexual things. It's just a preference.
You are perfectly normal. It is disgusting if really think about it. Everything about the human body is. The parts we obsess over are the worst of all.
no because everyone around you is probably ugly and some people just don't like sex
It's totally normal, especially if you are young and have not had many relationships...I think that those needs and sexual desires will come as you mature...
how does this even have 35 % except if you assume the person who wrote it is 7
I'd say it's not normal. The drive is very strong. But I know some people are like you. Therapy is quick and successful with cases like this.
It IS normal, unfortunately, especially if you are a so-called "born again" Christian.
I am a very young 51 yr old divorced female without children by choice. Over the years, I've had boyfriends and girlfriends. I'm active, not depressed, self-employed and call my own shots. I have ALWAYS hated getting all dressed up, having a wonderful night on the town and it gets ruined by my date wanting sex. It seems like most people aren't capable of cerebral excitement, they act primitive or like lower life forms.
Religion indoctrination.
You are brought up with sayings that sex is dirty. And god hate you for being a dirty whore and so on.
Religious indoctrination is a cheap shot. While there is so merit to it, practicing Catholics do not use birth control (depending on the era & personal devotion) and they have been fruitful and multiplied. Some Jewish sects encourage marriage by 14 or 15 and orgasm is the blessings of Shekinah
I kind of think it's disgusting but I'm young and I'm sure I'll get more horny as I get older
I think its totally normal. There are days where I want to fuck everything and then days where I think the whole concept is gross. Its probably just a phase.
I used to be like this. I thought the idea was disgusting, I pretended to have a "purity ring" in grade 8, and swore that I would be a virgin all my life. Then I thought, "Maybe that's impossible. Okay, IF I get married I'll have sex." Do you know what happened? Beginning of grade 12, this boy I was in love with wanted to start just fooling around, Friends with benefits. At first I said no and though I thought about it I was disgusted with the idea of bjs and getting eaten out and stuff. 2 months later I went back to him because I was SO DAMN CURIOUS! And now, though I am still a virgin, talking about sex and fooling around is so NATURAL, sex is like the most natural thing and I want him to take my virginity!
When you find a guy that you like that wants to start sexy time up, go for it. You'll stop thinking it's disgusting then.
But don't do anal. That's just gross.
Yeah it is normal especially if you have had some really smelly dirty vaginas and ass crack aroma, nothin worse than all those nasty body smells emitted by unhygenic women, my advice is find a nice clean girl who showers everyday, and is STD free.
Have you gone at it with someone yet?
Trust me, seduction will override your current feelings. Mark my words.
Some vaginas are gross....[lmao, chrome red lines "vaginas". I right clicked and there's no option for vagina plural, ahahaa!!]
Anyways, yeah that can be normal. It may look or smell disgusting, but if you turn off the lights, it can be really enjoyable so you don't have to witness your fear. I think eating cum is gnar and some people have ugly vags. What part/aspects are you most discomforted by?
I'm not a prude, nor a christian, and I'm not smalltown minded. However, people who speak as disrespectfully about intimate behavior such as yourself, is one of the main reasons sex becomes associated with nastiness and vulgarity. Locker room language is not appealing to most women. No wonder you are so familiar with "ugly vags."
Ah, no. That is not a "normal" feeling, but it's not entirely uncommon, especially if you happen to be a virgin. This question gets asked quite often on IIN, so you're not alone.
My advice would be to not over-think it, just do what feels good for your body; enjoy what your primal instincts tell you feels good (as long as you are not hurting yourself or anyone else). It really helps if you are madly in love with the person.
If you not scared of sex;I guess you've tried it.
You and/or your partner need some different techniques.
Good luck with it.
wtf you think sex is discusting u r crazy.have you even tried it? im tellen ya it feels amazin