Is it normal to think sex change surgery is wrong?

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The whole idea of a naturally born man or woman undergoing that type of surgery cannot be right. At the very least, it is deceptive in that the man or woman (post operation) may date and have sexual relations with naturally born men and women without telling them of the fact that they used to be a different sex. I read an article once featuring a post opp woman saying that all that was left to make her a "real woman" is for doctors to figure out a way to produce menstruation and ovulation. If you have to do all of that its time you just accept the fact your weren't meant to be a woman(or man). It is not natural.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I don't like to judge people like that. If my boyfriend just out right told me one day. "I used to be a woman" I wouldn't give a flying fuck. I was watching Jerry Springer the other day though, and the guys who were dating women who were born men sorta thing all freaked out! One guy even hit his girlfriend and she fell over the chair. It's nuts how much people actually care... It doesn't make "natural born" people anymore superior than someone who chose to change genders.

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  • Legion
    11 years ago

    Hard to say. I can see the fact that the person theyre with would probably want to know that, cause they would feel cheated or decieved otherwise. on the other hand, a person telling someone they're a post-op tranny would be even harder than someone coming out as homosexual, cause of the fear that they might get hurt, or that they will be shunned. I dont have a problem with people having sex changes (I used to in the past, not anymore), but in that situation, I would at least be surprised, cause what I though I knew wasnt, but I probably would stay.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Exactly what Parrish said... you would know. In very few cases can someone really be made to look convincingly like the other gender, especially genital reconstruction. I know many transgenders, especially FTM, who elect to use a strap on rather than get the genital reconstructive surgery. A lot of people are waiting for surgeries to become better and less dangerous.

    And as far as them lying to their partners go, honestly... how many people do you think lie about how many past sexual encounters they had, about their history in general, things they have done, things they have been... A lot of people lie, or even exclude information for a period of time, until they get to know someone better. I don't see the lie of having a sex change being any better or worse than any of the other lies that people tell every day.

    I read a beautiful article a few weeks ago about a guy who had been dating this girl for a few months and she came out and told him she's a post op transgender. He told her that it was fine, that she never even had to show him what she used to look like, because he fell in love with the person she is now.

    Don't you understand that people are lying about this because people like you are assholes to them on a daily basis? Transgenders have to deal with a lot of shit thanks to narrowmindednes, bigotry and fear. So if anything, the lying is a product of the fact that society has shunned them.

    And do you think if you truly, honestly fell in love with someone, you would throw all that out the window if you find out they lied about a part of their past due to fear of rejection or even bodily harm? I know it wouldn't matter one bit to me.

    The world would be a beautiful place if we could love a little more and judge a little less..

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Yes. On top of lying, they would have lied about something so important. I take that type of shit seriously. Secondly, dont get on my post calling me an asshole because I feel a certain way about something. I'm never outwardly rude to people who haven't done or said anything hateful to me. But I do have a right to feel the way I do and voice my opinion...bitch

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        Pardon my wording.

        People like you = people who are wary of the whole transgender thing.

        Did not mean to imply that you yourself did anything wrong, but I can understand not wanting to be lied to.

        I guess the way I see it is I've been in a bad relationship or two with some very good liars, and there are many far worse things a person can do. :/

        I suppose you'll simply to continue to insult me, so this will be my last reply.

        Apologies for the misuderstanding sir, I've been slightly delirious with a fever aquired while camping.
        Good night.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    If you were fucking a post op tranny... male or female, you would know. They can't make them perfect downstairs.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    Following your argument to its logical conclusion, no sex can take place until a complete surgical history is known?

    What? Your boobs aren't naturally 34E? I've been lied to.

    What? You once had a mole on your stomach removed? I've been lied to.

    What? You had your teeth straightened? You got me pregnant before you thought to tell me this? I've been lied to.

    I see your point. I do. But I think you're wrong. I think someone's teeth are probably a genetic thing, and being born in the wrong body probably isn't. Therefore, save your anger for the teeth-liars and don't attack the people who resolved non-genetic misfortune.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I mean surely you see the difference between getting your teeth whitened and a sex change surgery.

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        Straightened. And I didn't say they were the same. In fact, I specifically said they were different.

        "I think someone's teeth are probably a genetic thing, and being born in the wrong body probably isn't."

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          But the fact that you have a dick attached to you probably is genetic though.

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          • dappled
            11 years ago

            Are you being deliberately obtuse? Your gender isn't determined by the gender of your parent. It's not a genetic trait in that way.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              My point was you were saying according to "my logic" sex cannot take place unless the surgical history of your partner is disclosed including things such as mole removal. What I'm saying is this one specific surgery is clearly distinguished among the rest. No it's not genetic that you were born in the wrong body and I never said that. But some things do lend themselves to nature, such as having ovaries, or a vagina, or male genitalia. Genetic or not, a person is naturally born with these things (except in some cases).

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    • NotFloydzie
      11 years ago

      Are you mocking me?

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        I had to read it twice before I knew where you were going with this. :P

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        • NotFloydzie
          11 years ago

          Heheheh. :P

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          • dappled
            11 years ago

            Damn mole on your stomach. :P

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            • NotFloydzie
              11 years ago

              Damn gap between my teeth. :P

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Who's angry? I'm not attacking anyone, this is a discussion. Also, this isn't about a surgical history of a person you are involved with. I'm talking about this one specific ellective surgery. The one that transforms a man into a women or a woman into a man.

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago

    To be completely honest, for whatever reason, I don't have a problem with it. But then again, maybe that's because it really isn't all that common, I don't know.

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  • Wendell
    11 years ago

    They should at least inform the other person they had the operation. Yet I agree

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