Is it normal to think relationships lack meaning & commitment?

A good relationship is hard to find if you are the type of person that hangs around people who are immature and have weak characters. Like the women who say that all men are unfaithful dicks because they go after the same men every time and they don't even bother to look at themselves and wonder if maybe, it is something that they are doing to attract these losers.

There are people that take relationships seriously, but if you are hanging around immature or irresponsible people then of course you're not going to find someone that will take a relationship seriously because idiots can't take those kind of things seriously.

I agree. These days, people just go into relationships for the sake of being able to say they're in one. Its stupid.

I feel like people don't really put much thought into who they're with. They seem to just go with anyone. Nobody actually feels anything. Its sad.

And what makes it really terrible is that the relationships never last anyway, because they never cared to begin with, or they just went in thinking about banging the person. Peoples values are a little different nowadays. Its like 'relationships, love, and marriage' has been thrown out the window. People don't care like they used to. They don't see long term and a lot of people don't believe in long term anymore either. Its very sad.

I'm pretty sure people have been cheating and generally acting shitty towards each other since the dawn of humanity. It's not new.

I tried my best to believe there's something to the whole concept of "relationships" besides convenience, and an attempt to avoid loneliness. Of course, some people have other anxieties -financial, self esteem, peer pressure.

But it's been about 2 years since I find the idea of human family "cell" extremely artificial. Yeah, I don't deny "love" -such a complex chemical reaction could be have other million reasons, but it does happen.

In any case, this long term interaction based on loyalty, love & trust never really existed outside of the romantic literature.

This is how the majority of relationships are becoming. It's so hard to find anything real these days, and it seems like when you do find someone you truly love, they don't love you back.

I agree. People feel forced to be in relationships, and they end up with people they don't even like.

That is a very negative way of thinking. Where do you see such awful relationships? I can understand if it's in school, but... I would never say that finding a meaningful relationship is hard. Maybe I live in a nicer part of the world than you.

I se what you mean, they aren't committed.

I was just talking to one of my friends about that this morning. She's going to celebrate her 29th anniversary this January. She was telling me about how most of her friends and family members have been divorced and remarried. It is rare to find couples who have been together for that long. I think nowadays we are so busy with our careers and lives that we rush into relationships that are really not good for us. Broken families have become the norm and getting with someone with kids also creates a lot of issues.
Their are a lot of reasons why relationships don't work. I think people need to figure out what they want from a relationship and settle for nothing less.

I agree, that's observing the people around me and going by my past myself. I think there are more uncommitted relationships than committed relationships these days, unfortunately.

You're too cynical.

Saying that everybody cheat etc.. I don't agree. I think you're talking from personal experience. I am actually in a relationship where I am faithful, I try my best not to hurt, I don't play game and my feelings are genuine. The relationship is not perfect, we have our ups and downs but I can sincerely say that I am in a happy relationship.

In the past though I have had some real bad experiences and I will say that in most of them I was not the victim. I've hurt many people and I have been hurt but I have continue to believe that eventually I would find this person who would be perfect for me. Be patient