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I suspect that people are shy about, or feel guilty admitting how much they actually enjoy sex. Its as if it makes them seem shallow or immature if they admit they really fucking enjoy sex. This is in my opinion of course! So feel free to disagree and have a discussion about it.
Well that is good to know! People are probably more honest on here then in real life though, am I rite?
I think in some ways they are more honest, but in other-ways not as honest. Like they will be more honest about taboo issues that they normally couldn't talk to friends and family about, but maybe brag an lie about things to make themselves seem "bigger" bla bla
I think you're half right. I think the people who are open about taboo things are that way because of the taboo things. If you're already pushing your own boundaries what's the point in being shy or lying about it?
The vast majority of the population is very VERY shy about sex. A friend of mine talked such big game about how she wasn't shy about sex at all and loved it and wanted to talk about it...right up until it came time to actually talk about it. She immediately backed off and got quiet about it aside from a few outbursts.
Fair enough. I think that is why I like this site so much, nothing that is usually taboo is taboo.
Of course, in society sex has always been taboo. Plus people don't want to come off as giant pervs, especially with women or their considered a "slut" or "whore". This things all have negative meanings in today's society. In reality were all perv's or whores at heart, just some of us are able to shed the social norms and not care about their labels. Peoples lives would be a lot more fulfilling if they were honest about their wants and desires and didn't bottle it up trying to conform to the "social norms".
I know someone who has never had sex and doesn't want to. She was horrifically abused by her father throughout her childhood and into her early teens. I believe it is quite common for people in this sort of situation to have no desire for sex.
For most normal, healthy people it is usual to enjoy sex. But there are always exceptions.
Yes, obviously in cases of abuse and things of that sort, there will be exceptions. I did not intend this post to refer to everyone, but I do think it applies to most people. I just think that a vast majority of people will not admit how much they truly enjoy sex. Do you agree?
If we're talking in normal circumstances, all else being well, then yes, it is very normal for people to enjoy sex, totally agree.
I don't often hear people denying this though, which is why I perhaps misunderstood the true meaning of your question - I assumed perhaps you were talking about the exceptions to the rule because I've never heard someone say they don't enjoy sex unless it was in an unusual context (eg aforementioned friend who suffered childhood abuse).
If you are hanging around with people who tell you that enjoying sex is immature then maybe just try and avoid them from now on. They sound weird. That's like saying you don't like eating or sleeping lol. Not everyone wants casual sex of course, but to pretend that any form of sex isn't enjoyable is just stupid.
The points you nake are fair, but you are kind of missing the point of the post. It is not that people don't admit to liking sex, people don't deny shit that obvious. Its that people aren't honest about the EXTENT to which they enjoy sex.
I'd never thought about it before. I guess I don't talk to people about my personal sexual enjoyment, except with my close friends. And my close friends are always honest about it, I think, but that's not saying much because you're likely to much more honest with close friends than you would be with the general public.
Obviously I talk to my husband about it but that doesn't count lol.
I guess I wasn't the right person to weigh in on the discussion?
Not so! I appreciate your outlook. Nobody is really well qualified to answer this honestly, unless your a sexoligist or sometin. Its more of what you think it would be, more than like a survey of hard data showing people don't admit it. Its no exact science so don't feel bad
I see your point and it may apply to some people, however, it is not the case with me. I will definently admit to it!. Also It is a little short sighted in my opinion, because how much people enjoy sex varies tremendously from person to person. I see where your coming from tho....