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So me and my mom's boyfriend haven't exactly hit it off from the start. The point I'm trying to make is that 4 years later I still am reminded of the fight we had and I hate him for it. I hate him intensely. Is this normal?
Normal.
Sometimes, I look back on some of the stuff that idiots pulled on me and I think... "idiots".
I forgave them. People who do bad things to others intentionally or willingly are generally miserable people.
Happy people don't steal from others, try to sleep with your boyfriend, call you names, try to ruin your reputation, talk nasty about others etc.
Ultimately, misery loves company and I am just grateful that I am no longer that company.
I hope that they will someday see the error of their ways and change, I have had people apologize to me for things that they have done to me.
Often times, their misery leaks into other areas of their lives and seeing it makes my inner vindictive demon pretty happy, I won't lie.
And often times they are so stupid that they never realize what they are doing and continue to make the same poor decisions that keep hurting them.
But if none of the above happens and they live happy fruitful lives well... fuck it, they're obviously doing SOMETHING right.
I have done many wrongs myself and hope that those I have wronged have forgiven me. Despite all of this, if someone screws me over I just leave 'em be. They're idiots and I feel bad for them and I am glad that I am not in their shoes.
He will continue to have power over you as long as you hate him, learn to forgive, but you do not have to forget! Only then can you move on, and take your power back
yes i guess it is normal. i personally have had a few people in my past specially from college who i dont like. but i feel i can personally forgive but not forget, so whatever may have happened with them, i let it go. some of them sometimes try to keep contact as if nothing was wrong but i choose not. it may not be possible for you to do the same, but it may be best to just forget and not let it affect you.
There is one person. He took most of my social groups away from me (not intentionally, but still did). He took the first one, which I was not bothered by, and then the second.
I think the main reason was that I never really took care of my physical appearance back then, and I wasn't bothered by most things, but now, I would take everything from him for payback. He even had the same name.
One thing he could never take was the one person I actually consider a friend, he would of laughed.
The guy was one of those popular boys that thought he was hardcore for getting a speeding ticket, where as I set fire to buildings...So he kind of never had what it took to get everything I was and make it his own.