Is it normal to think of the ones you love dying?

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So every so often I find myself thinking of my family members dying or sometimes I'll think if my dog dies I can get a new puppy, or just think of her dying,and I love her more than anything! Or sometimes I'll even think of my spouse dying. Then I think oh god what if I end up being a murderer! It's a very odd thought process and it usually ends up giving me panic attacks because I think I'm going crazy or that I actually want the ones I love to die. Sometimes I even think about me dying, or that I might enjoy it wherever I go more than here... Is this at all normal?! Do other people think this way?!

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  • more23
    14 years ago

    In my opnion, it's normal, but you are probably slightly obsessive compulsive or somewhat depressed. My guess is that what you are really afraid of is being a social outcast, a weirdo. But since you actively fear this, your mind keeps suggesting you these inappropriate thoughts in order to sabotage you. It's like trying not to think about the green elephant. Stop obsessing about these thoughts, accept them, and they should go away. Also, consider getting some professional help - it would for sure help you to understand what are the real issues in your life that are causing you to have these worries.

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    • rebecca007
      14 years ago

      I think it is normal to a certain extent. I am only 20 years old and I literally have panick attacks all the time from thinking about death. Face it, it is all around us. I think about my loved ones dying, including my children. I think about all the what if's, but I mostly think about what happens to me afterwards? I cannot accept under any rationality the death factor. My fiance' is a very spiritual person and he believes it is partially because I am not. Ofcourse my doctor just gives me medication for this, and it does calm me down but the bottom line is that this is a physcological issue. If we have belief in a higher power than us (which I do) and actually fully believe 100%% that there is a life after this, I think we would be okay. It is just so difficult for us to do this in my opinion. I always calm myself down from my panic attacks by taking a walk down my sidewalk, smelling the nature and appreciate the life that is all around us instead of the death. It is a terrifying experience, good luck.

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  • Eccentric
    14 years ago

    You are normal. There is NOTHING wrong with you.
    This is called paranoia, or "worst-case sanerio"
    Lots of people have it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Ok honestly - it could be you are just being morose & really wallowing around in worse case scenario death imagining thoughts. And then you freak at your own capacity to imagine & think about these things.

    Sure - OCD gets tossed around a lot on this site. But every weird & annoying habit can't be OCD.

    Just get real. And go do something useful next time you start ruminating.

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