Is it normal to think love is overrated?

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I think love is highly overrated by modern society. It's just unnecessary to live a successful life.
Love is a temporary emotion. Sure, some of you may say "Me and my significant other had a relationship for more than five years". Thank friendship for that. Love fades, but friendship doesn't. All those happy couples you see that were together for ages are kept together by friendship, not love.
You don't need love to feel happy. You can feel happy by doing what you like, looking back at your achievements or striving to achieve something new. Love in this aspect is just one of your options, it isn't special in any way.
I'm not saying love is bad for you, I'm just saying society doesn't need to exajerate it's significance like it does. I've seen so many people get depressed, because they can't find the right one and that is society's fault. They make it seem that until you get love you are nothing.
So, is it normal or not? I'd like to see your take on it in the comments.

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Based on 23 votes (15 yes)
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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    "All those happy couples you see that were together for ages are kept together by friendship, not love."

    Interesting hypothesis, but you can't prove it. What makes you think friendship is more long-lasting than love is, anyway? I've seen far more people upset due to broken friendships than I have broken relationships. Does that make friendship over-rated, since that too is usually temporary?

    If there are loads of happy and fulfilled single people, then how exactly can you simultaneously say it is society that is making single people feel sad and unfulfilled? If society was to blame, most (if not all) single people would be depressed by their singledom since they are all a product of that society. It's an issue of the individual, not the society.

    You can't blame love for making single people sad. They are sad because of the absence of love, not love itself.

    You do not need romantic love to be happy, but that doesn't make love over-rated since the only people saying you do need love to be happy are cheesy film stars and musicians.

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    • SciVoid
      10 years ago

      What have you have more of? Friends or lovers? Most people have had more friends than love interests. That is something I'm sure both of us can agree on.

      I was talking about what should be, not what it is. I said you can still BE happy even if you are alone.

      Everyone makes love seem so great and the absence of it gets people sad as a result.

      Saying that cheesy movies and musicians say love is grand is true, but there are many more types of media that also do it. Not only that but people that do watch that stuff and fall for it will "send the message" to others.

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      • dom180
        10 years ago

        Everyone has had more friends than lovers, but I don't know what your point is to be honest. Friendship is still usually temporary, but that isn't fair grounds to say friendship is over-rated.

        Are you saying that in reality there *aren't* lots of happy single people? I know many happy single people personally.

        You can also equate friendship and love to explain your third point. Everyone makes friendship seem great too, and plenty of people are sad as a result of not having friends. Once again, that's not grounds for saying friendship is over-rated so why would it be grounds for saying love is?

        Hmm. I've not met very many of those people myself and I can't say that I see that message purveying through all parts of society. Maybe in some sub-cultures that attitude exists, but certainly not in many parts of society. Anyway: love *is* grand and amazing and anyone saying it isn't doesn't know what love is. It isn't *necessary*, but anyone who has felt love will tell you that "grand" is an understatement, not an over-rating.

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        • SciVoid
          10 years ago

          I accept defeat. This battle was much shorter than I wanted it to be, but it was a great one.

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  • randomthoughts
    10 years ago

    You could not be any more correct!! :) I pity the people that think that the only important thing in life is to pursue a relationship so they can feel love and then have babies. Even my sis who is 14 thinks that girls her age that are continuously wanting a bf are stupid and she quotes 'All they think that life is about is having a boyfriend'.

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  • parrotzebra
    10 years ago

    Well, love is not just between significant others.
    I voted 'yes' because I think that's the only sort of love you're referring to. You're right. Loads of single people still feel happy and fulfilled.
    However, love also includes loving your work, your family and friends, nature, art, hobbies, etc. A person who does not love anything in life will find themselves simply existing.

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  • LovelyMay
    10 years ago

    You wouldn't be alive if there wasn't love in the world, honestly.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    10 years ago

    I get what you're saying and I agree with you, although I do think that some people can feel a romantic attraction to someone for the rest of their lives. Some people can have a lifelong love other can't. But I do agree that friendship is what keeps the relationship together. I always say, "If it doesn't work, it's not going to work," and there's no sense and seeing a counselor about it. So yes. I do agree that friendship is more important than romantic love. But love effects people indifferent ways and people respond to the emotion in different ways. For some people, it can last a lifetime, for others, it only lasts for two weeks.

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  • Ipooprainbows
    10 years ago

    Relationships suck because they end and friendships suck because they too end- That's life.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    it sure is

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    As long as the sex is good.

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  • Erik963
    10 years ago

    Yes I have to agree with you.

    I have to say, love might "be" necessary in life, but if people bothered changing something rather than "fucking" something, our world would look different than it is now.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    It used to be overrated but now it's the other way around. Now everything is about sex and money.

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  • IsitUnique
    10 years ago

    Aww poor you, haven't found love yet. Love is not your enemy.

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    • SciVoid
      10 years ago

      "I'm not saying love is bad for you"
      ~ quote from what you were supposed to read.

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