Is it normal to think it's the end of the world if you aren't pretty?

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I think I have pretty bad BDD. I feel like if I'm not pretty or good looking, I can't possibly have a good life. I feel so much pressure to be attractive, as a female. Also, I feel so incredibly jealous of my best friend for getting so much attention. I know it sounds really shallow, but I can't help feeling this way. People do say I am attractive and pretty and I do get attention... but I can't believe it. I am convinced that I am really ugly and can't possibly have a good life. I try to live up to very high standards.. and I just can't. I can't help the way I look and I punish myself for this.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You are as your thoughts revolve around. If you think on dumb things, you become idiotic. If you think on how ugly you are, then of course your perception will be warped.

    But if you tell yourself, "I like the way I look", "I'm beautiful", "people love the way I look" then in time you'll see yourself that way.

    The most embittered battles we ever fight in this life are with ourselves, internally.

    You will succeed or fail by your own designs, unfortunately.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    It's not "shallow," per se. Everyone wants to be loved, and we take attraction as a form of that. Personally, I think it's more important to be beautiful than "pretty" or "hot" or "sexy." And I take beauty to be, first and foremost, something in the soul of every human being. All you have to do is find YOUR beauty, that joy and truth and love and dignity and singularity that makes you you.

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  • NotFloydzie
    11 years ago

    This is one of the most ridiculous stories I've read here.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Being tall and handsome has not helped me in life one bit, it's caused more trouble than it's worth.

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    • dirtybirdy
      11 years ago

      Oh this is just awful. If you were actually capable of producing tears, i'd let you cry on my shoulder. Shh shh birdys here....

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  • pieceofmyheart
    10 years ago

    I feel the same way

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    Yes it's normal. Appearances are everything in today's world and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
    I really wish I were tall, dark and handsome but alas I'm short, fair and plain looking.

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  • SuperBenzid
    11 years ago

    Well I am a guy, so perhaps I have a different perspective but I am extremely ugly. My life has honestly been better than you would think both romantically and socially. Sure you might not fit the average conception of beauty but if you put yourself out there you will find people that genuinely find you attractive.

    You would be amazed at how bad I look and yet how many good looking people i have dated. I just want to say there is hope out there because unless you are a burns victim or seriously disfigured (and perhaps even then) you will look better than me. Yet i have done pretty well, so just put yourself out there and don't worry.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    If you put importance in beauty, happiness will always be far away.

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  • dietcoke
    11 years ago

    You shine for a long time for being respectable, but good looks will fade as we age. Personality is key, being good-looking doesn't win you everything!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Sure, the story does sound ridiculous. But guess what? Most of the time I feel the same. And I'm sure a lot of women do too. I reckon it's the media. We may turn our backs on it, but I'm sure it hits our subconscious, in one way or another. Thin women in magazines with angular faces and smooth skin. Long hair is considered the sexy thing. Small noses, big lips, trimmed eyebrows.

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