Is it normal to think ill of my boyfriend?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and 3 months now. During the first year of our relationship, everything was smooth just like any other relationships. Along the way,we discovered each others differences and we're cool with it. What's freaking me out is that we never connect on things/stuffs. I often contradict him. We always argue on small things to the point that I think ill of him. I think of stabbing him or punching him so hard (but that's just my thought, it never happened). But at the end of the day,after arguing and all,we reconcile.
I always push him away but on the other hand, I'm afraid of losing him. He's never been anything but kind to me. I do love him. But is it normal that I think ill of him?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    When you truly love someone you don't notice the time going in coz you're so happy with them. I was dating my hubby for 6 years before we thought of getting married. If he's not making you happy, get out of it and don't waste any more time arguing.

    I could count on one hand the number of arguments I've had with my husband in almost 30 years. Life with a partner is not about arguing and fighting it's about happiness and harmony. If not, you're with the wrong one :o(

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  • iamkatniss
    12 years ago

    What you have with him is codependency, not even a relationship. in a real relationship, he would not express contempt for your feelings by being cruel to you even after he was told his behavior was unacceptable. Draw your line in the sand. If you really think I'll of him ... you don't respect or trust him ...because he has shown a lack of respect for you. Not a stand up guy - needs to be cut loose.m

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    "During the first year of our relationship, everything was smooth just like any other relationships" this right here is a seriously misunderstood statement. You may not know this, but nearly every relationship has it's problems, it's normal.

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  • gators=amazing
    12 years ago

    I was in somewhat of the same situation, we and him were together for 2yrs..the first year was great, but after we hit the one year mark everything started to fall apart. We were arguing more and more. Then it came to where I just didnt care about his feelings or input on anything. If it seems like it just keeps getting worse and worse get outta there..whats the point in being in a relationship with someone when you guys can't even agree to the simplest of things. In the end its gonna make you guys hate each other even more.

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    Sometimes, you can care about someone and like someone, but find that you have less and less in common and those little things you ignored when the relationship was new become too much to let go and you find yourself arguing all the time.

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