Is it normal to think i like men, but be repulsed by them?

You do whatever you feel is right for you :)

Same. I love men by personality alone, then appearance becomes sexy, even though other people tell me the men I like are ugly or blah, I think they are attractive because of their personality(or the way I imagine it). I don't feel an urge to have sex with them but if i loved them enough and they wanted it i would give it to them like a reward for being so nice. But with woman they are very sexually appealing to me, I can't image being with one though cause I am not confident for that kind of social judgement. Plus I feel super awkward around hot girls..

I treat men and women the same. Even before I was married. I'm a guy. And I think that you should try doing the same. Drop your expectations...because some guys are more sensitive and some are not some women are aggressive and lack emotional connection and some don't.

You're attracted to who you're attracted to. But a guy will do sexually what...you train him to do :)

I don't mean that as a submissive/dom thing...I mean if you tell a guy you like this vs like that...he'll do it. Men tend to want to please believe it or not. If you're into women...then be into women.

it can be helpful to have a clear label on your sexuality, but honestly theres not really any reason other than that. I think you shouldn't worry about it as much.

Lesbian in the making...

You sound like you have a slight fear of men, and your curiosity towards women is likely a result of you being afraid. I have nothing against people who are bi, lesbian or straight, so don't get me wrong! I just gathered that from you saying that you would like to be with women based on their kind love making, and your assuming men would be rough. What I get from that is that you want a partner who will treat you right. If you're anything like me, you require a connection with someone to find them sexually attractive. I think it's called "Demi-sexual" I can't seem to find someone sexual attractive either. Man or woman...it just doesn't make sense to me to look at them and get all excited when I don't even know them. When I'm on the hunt for a partner I'm usually ease dropping to see what that person is like lol (Not in a stalker kind of way!!) When I read this part of your post "when i do feel something for a guy, he's has to be super super sexy and way out of my league." It sounds like a convenient excuse to just avoid them. You already stated that when you look at a picture of a "hot" man you don't feel anything. I think it's written all over your post. If you want a name for what you are, I'm guessing it's "Demi-sexual" Here's a cut and paste of Demi-sexual definition: A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. In general, demisexuals are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender. Sorry if I'm being to presumptuous, hope I helped a little :) A demi sexual would likely be looking for someone like you are. Someone who will treat you right, be gentle and understanding in bed. Appearance or gender doesn't have a whole lot to do with it. It's the person inside that counts the most. Luck to you!

This kindof relates to how I feel... I want to like men but I just dont have that attraction. but I do get it with other women. The few people who know I like women are my closest friends but I told them im bisexual because its more normal and I don't think I'll be judged as harshly...