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I have the nicest guy, but because of past relationships I freak myself out. Lately he has been texting his bestfriends girlfriend and I am worried. I want to check his phone but that is crazy stalker Shit. Is this normal? What do I do?
Don't look at his phone behind his back. If you're really worried, talk to him about it. Men can have friends who are women without anything else going on.
If i were you i wouldnt take advice from ANYONE in here, myself included. Relationships are one case at a time, so dont take cues from people online, go with your own gut feeling. And be ready to own it if youre wrong.
If he always had his phone with him at all times and never lets it out of his sight then yes something is going on. If he spends more time texting this girl than talking to you then I'm sorry to say relationship will not last. My friend cheated on her bf and it was a rather similar situation, becUse she was constantly texting his friend just as 'friends' they did eventually start to grow feelings as would be expected I guess when you find someone attractive and spend a lot of time texting them. So, keep am eye on his behaviour and ask him about it.
Good luck
It is normal to be easily spooked, and over accusing after a bad experience in a past relationship. It is something that you have to work on, however, as you will see a lot of dating problems if you keep letting your shitty ex have that much of a hold over you! It is almost like your current boy is being punished for your ex's fuck ups. Just keep an eye out, and you will know if anything is really going on.
Just do a little bit of investigating, if he is in fact guilty and thinks your clueless then he'll continue. Don't get all nutty with suspicion unless you have good reasons to do so, go slowly and investigate a little bit.
I'd say just wait it out, don't check his phone but be cautious that he might be cheating & prepare yourself for the worst, he might just be friends with her & it will all be fine (:
How is checking your boyfriends phone crazy stalker shit? Uhm maybe I should post a question on isitnormal because I think having access to your partners phone is pretty much standard practice. I have all my girlfriends social networking pins etc. Her phone codes, laptop codes and vice versa...so I find it a bit weird you haven't seen the contents of his phone.
Of couse it's normal!!!! This shows you love him. I say look at his phone with or without - preferabilly without his knowing and then you know you will have nothing to worry about!! Also tell your man how you feel!!! He might just be able to ease your concerns. Because you know he is txtn her i'm sure there is no issue, it's wen he is hiding it from you that you need to worry.
A little jealously like this in a relationship is good, it keeps you on your toes and keeps you appreciating your man!
I would be concerned, the only way to know is to ask him. Just do it casually and try not to make it a big deal. "So..Are you and ____ good friends?" Or "What do you and ___ talk about?" And when you have the right topic change express you aren't mad just curious. Plus, his reaction can give you a clue to what's going on as well. Just TALK TO HIM!!
No it's not normal you're a horrible person for doing so. You should feel shame for doing such a horrible thing to a nice guy.
honestly its normal to think that.
but do not invade his privacy, do not jump into conclusions cuz im sure u would hate to feel dumb.
but what you can do is test him, try to manipulate him make him talk. not all guys are the same so some advices may not work