Is it normal to think guys only like me for my looks? i feel convinced

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I've been played a lot, by a lot of different guys. Of course I'm upset when it happens, but I've learned to basically blow it off.

Here is my story that showed me what it's done to me:

Last week I went to the beach a few times and got sunburn on my face. A few days later it started to peel while I was in the shower. When I was doing my makeup, it looked uneven and blotchy. I removed all of my makeup and tried different ways to even it out, but it wasn't working. Then, I pretty much had a meltdown. I felt like without my looks, I was nothing. I know I'm not gorgeous, but I do know guys think I'm attractive.
But the feeling was over whelming. I felt like I couldn't leave my house, I couldn't go anywhere looking like that, because people wouldn't like me. I'm not vain, I've never felt that way before. But now I am convinced that guys don't like me for me, they just want me for my body. I feel like I am looked at as a sex toy. Like my personality is nothing. I feel like without my looks, I am nothing at all.

When I try to convince myself that I am wrong, and that I have just came across grimy guys, there are things that hold me back from believing that.
-The last guy to really win me over and have me fall for him turned and said I was just suppose to be "A hit it and quit it" type of thing.
-There are a few guys that hit me up a lot just to ask to hook up.
-I have been friends with a really cool guy for a long time, and I made the mistake of hooking up with him. He barely talks to me now.

Is it normal to feel this after all of these guys treating me this way? Will I ever get over it? Has anyone else felt this before?

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    This is why dating is important. You take things one step at a time and don't allow yourself to be used by someone. And now you've convinced yourself that since looks are all that matter and - surprise - then you only get superficial guys. Figure out what you want from relationships and pursue that - a real relationship. Date, talk, do things together, introduce friends, develop mutual interests and plans. If you feel, however, that you need guys to approve of you for you to approve of yourself then you need to take a break from them all together and learn to know and like yourself.

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    • Ldizzy1234
      11 years ago

      I agree, Mando. ;)

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  • Afreedomnature
    11 years ago

    Pics or it didn't happen.

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    • THATBATDUDE
      11 years ago

      Hahahahah

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    Yes pretty girls need to say No more often.
    Fact of life.

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  • emilydoll
    11 years ago

    Stop having sex with these boys...

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I don't have sex with all of them. I hooked up with the one at a party. I fell for two then found out I was only being used before I did anything with them. The others hit me up asking to hook up, I haven't hooked up with them.

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      • queued
        11 years ago

        I didn't see emily's comment as an attack that needed defending. I saw it as a suggestion to help. Don't give the guys the power, whether it be a hook-up, or just conversing with them.

        their motives aren't in your best interest

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  • Francophile22
    11 years ago

    Yes; now if you'd ever give any of us dweebs the time of day, your luck might change.

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  • queued
    11 years ago

    they're called douchebags, and they will use you. Find a nice guy and let him win you over

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  • kupokupo
    11 years ago

    Wow you've found some terrible examples of guys :\ I hope you know that some of us out there can be dedicated and, not so much as look past visual appearance, but see the importance of personality too. I hope you find some nicer guys :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Some I suppose. I haven't lost all hope, but I've lost most of it. But thanks.

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      • kupokupo
        11 years ago

        Trust me, there are other guys beside me who can actually be reliable. Try not to get too down, you'll find someone eventually :) you're welcome and good luck!

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    This is why dating is important. You take things one step at a time and don't allow yourself to be used by someone. And now you've convinced yourself that since looks are all that matter and - surprise - then you only get superficial guys.

    Figure out what you want from relationships and pursue that - a real relationship. Date, talk, do things together, introduce friends, develop mutual interests and plans.

    If you feel, however, that you need guys to approve of you for you to approve of yourself then you need to take a break from them all together and learn to know and like yourself.

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    well you might have better luck in college in a new area, where your not know, idk i feel bad for you

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    i mean how old are you, still in highschool or in college?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I graduated 2011, not in college yet.

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    mehhh that sucks =/

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Yeah :/

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      • shuggy-chan
        11 years ago

        i have friends like you that have that problem i think it the guy you hang with too. or you got a bad rep, try looking in a new area for a relationship maybe

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  • Mason556
    11 years ago

    Ya most girls do think that but it's not all about your looks relly it's about the buety on the inside besides most guys are assholes and I mean that especially in school I'm still 12 but I'm a nerd and things don't work out the best for us :(

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