Is it normal to think every guy is gay?

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I'll start off by saying I have no problem with gays. I don't make a big deal out of sexuality at all, I have plenty of relatives as well as friends that are gay/lesbian. Personally, I'm asexual (I kind of lost my sex drive about a year ago. Yeah, it kind of sucks) though I do ♥ men. Actually, there's only been one girl that I'd consider dating, but only her. Other than that I love men. Mostly for personality I go, but anyways.

I have plenty of male friends. Gender wise I'd say it's at a steady balance.

I don't really care, but I guess the reason for me being asexual (and no, I didn't choose to be. I'm pretty pissed off by it, actually!), as it's not like I don't want love. Who knows, maybe it will pass.

But I can't experience it or anything. I mean, I keep refusing. Every time (and sorry, I'm going for men only) I even THINK of being /like that/ with a guy, something in the back of my mind tells me they're gay.

It just makes me feel really bad. I do support being gay, because I don't think it's a big change, at all. Like a religion or political view - it doesn't matter to me.

But lately I've been getting this feeling that because I'm a female I'm not good enough. And no, I'm not feminist. This may sound rude but I put girls in their place more often than I really should.

Sorry, I know I sound like a bitch, but I'm being honest. I guess the reason why my body self-proclaimed me asexual, and why I'm afraid to be more with a guy than just a sis/bro kind of thing, is because I am always suspicious of a guy being gay, therefore thinking they automatically are not interested.

It sucks, especially when you have friends and you're not on the same page - are guys this confusing, or am I overlooking things?
Also, feel free to call me a bitch, retard, whatever makes you happy - I honestly don't even know the point of this, just is this normal? Thank you (pl) in advance.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I still don't understand why you think all guys are gay. You're giving 10 reasons to other things but you're not actually saying why you think all guys are gay.

    Not every guy is gay, just like not every girl is a lesbian.

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    • tentacleTherapist
      12 years ago

      I'm afraid to like a guy in fear that he's gay. I have no idea why, I just feel every guy I can actively talk to is gay.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        But wouldn't a gay guy tell you he was gay if he saw you interested in him? I don't know why you think that way but it's silly. Don't take it the wrong way. I mean, if I liked a girl, I wouldn't be scared to find out she's a lesbian.

        I guess you should just take life normally and when you find someone you like, don't be afraid. If he's gay, he will tell you, if he isn't and feels the same way about you, well you might just start something great together.

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        • tentacleTherapist
          12 years ago

          We've been great friends for a few years now. Not that long, but this year we have 3 classes in a row and talk a lot. He told me he was bi and I don't/am not showing interest. And nah, I (hope) I'm not taking you the wrong way. It just kind of angers me I don't know what to do.

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          • [Old Memory]
            12 years ago

            Well keep on talking and if you do like him, I'm sure it will come out at some point. You said he's bi, so he likes males and females. If he likes you, he will be with you and nobody else. Not because he's bi, on a random day he will say: Time to get me a guy!

            If I were you I'd just keep talking and when you feel more comfortable with him, maybe give him little signs that you like him. The only thing is if he feels the same about you or not.

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            • tentacleTherapist
              12 years ago

              Ahaha, thank you :) Yes, I do like him as much as I possibly can, being asexual, hope things go well. Thank you again :B

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