Is it normal to think about a guy when you are in a les relationship?

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Ok, so here's the deal, i date a girl, long distance relationship for several years and the issue is that when we have sex, i cum really hard, meaning it takes a lot of time and efforts. Now, the issue is that sometimes i imagine im with a guy (no one particular) just so i can come faster (doesnt help always). I cant always come anyway. I assume the issue is within me because she's truly amazing and i adore her, i dont want a guy (before her they have always attract me in a sexual way only,nothing more, i dont want a relationship with a guy) so Imma mess. I need to know if someone out there is feeling like that .... Just so you know i havent been with a guy and I want that girl to be my girlfriend!!!)

I believe it's a sexual issue and I'm the reason for that, not her. Usually it takes forever to cum (anywhere from 50 to an hour and 30-40 minutes to cum!) so that's a lot of "work" you know! And if i dont cum she feels bad and I hate that! Its not her fault ... advises?!

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    You may be romantically attracted to her but it sounds like whatever you're doing sexually isn't working. Do you masturbate? if so, do you still have that problem? try introducing sex toys into your sex life, maybe a dildo or vibrator will help things along.

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    • girlgirl
      11 years ago

      Hmmm, I dont know, she's not into toys! AT ALL! I do masturbate and I do have the same issue quite often, so Im aware that the problem is me, not her! Some people just say It's normal to cum harder, that's just who I am and I'm not easy and I should accept that and I only imagine a guy pretty much when I cant cum after a long time (most of the times that doesnt help either). I enjoy what she does to me, though If she's a bit more harder it would be better i believe. I have told her that more than once and her reply is that she cant do it first cuz she doesnt want to hurt by accident and second cuz its not in her nature to be hard or whatever....

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      • quentari
        11 years ago

        fair enough, if it's difficult for you by yourself then it's probably not her technique. She may have to be a bit more open to trying other things though, it's normal to find it difficult to come but there must be something you can do that you haven't tried yet that could make it easier.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Have you tried getting her to dress like a bloke?

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    • girlgirl
      11 years ago

      No, I would never really want her to do that. I love how feminine she is! If I want boy I will get one, that's not the problem.

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