Is it normal to test your friends?
Is it correct to secretly test your friends, just to prove if they are your real friends or not?
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Based on 101 votes
(48 yes)
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howaminotmyself
a real friend doesn't test their friends. It may prove their ability to be a friend, but not yours.
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RoseIsabella
This speaks of a great lack of trust on your part. If your friends find out your testing them they could very well feel betrayed and leave you. Try to be patient and mindful. Time will tell if you can trust your friends and if you are mindful of how they treat you and others you will be able to discern whether or not they are trustworthy without having to stoop to testing them behind their backs.
You do want your friends to be able to trust you, don't you? How would you feel if someone were testing you behind your back?
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SparklingOcean<3
If I had to test my friends, I wouldn't bother being friends with them in the first place...it's too much stress to have to test and play games with someone who is important to me.
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bemah
I'd rather not, i already know he answer...and if i didn't I'm not sure I'd really want to find out.
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Shugaboom
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ibreathelectric
No not really, it's a little thing called trust. Your judge of their character based on the amount of time you spend with them should reveal to you if they are truly your friend or not.
If I was that friend being tested, I'd jump ship ASAP.
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Shugaboom
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Holzman_67
I don't think it pays to pay so much mind to friendship. People come and go in your life, cherish the ones that are loyal. But accept that we are all unique, with unique values, ideals and philosophies which evolve over time. You may meet a friend and think its forever but actually grow apart. That's individuality for you.
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SHAKEStheClown
Is it normal that I would dump someone as a friend if I found out they were testing me?
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Shugaboom
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o_0
No one really has to test a friend ! time and events prove them and their friendship...
but for you to do it purposely, isn't good at all. that's an untrustworthy way of being friends..Also if you are suspicious whether that person is your true friend or not give more of your effort into your relationship, because even if he/she is not a true one your trustworthiness will turn him into one.. relations are usually weak and unstable in the start but they can be made better by a little effort and cooperation... and if you put in a little more than usual I'm sure it will get noticed and will make changes :)
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flamethrower1
I don't see the need to test friends, they either are or aren't your friends, real friends are there for you when your your down/ upset need company without making a whole load of execuses & are there when times are good/bad & don't turn their back on you , real friends stick by you & up for you when they believe you are in the right, you also find out who your friends are when it comes to weddings & occasions & things like that, so if your friends do or have done any of these things then you should know by now whether or not they are your friends
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thegypsysailor
I'd have to agree with SparklingOcean<3.
What point is there in having friends you need to test?
I'd be a loner long before I'd stoop to your level, and I certainly wouldn't want you for a friend. Where do you live? so I can stay a long, long way away.Comment Hidden ( show )