Is it normal to tell my boyfriend everything from my past

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Me and the B.F. meet when i was 16 and he was 19.Now when my boyfriend got back to texas i told him what had been going on him and I broke up for a few days.So anyway a few months had passed by and our relationship got deep and we started to fall in love with each other and I wanted him to be my first. He reacted as to throwing the wrapper out the window and saying lets just wait.So we then went on dating up untill the 12th grade.Now I should remind you that I was in High School and he was in college,we didn't spend much time together because we lived about 25 minutes away from each other and my parents didn't like our age difference. He was very attractive and well I was still developing, so I had my doubts that he was faithfull or that he even took me serious.Just a few weeks before prom he refused to go with me becasue he had some legal issues I just thought in my mind that it was something else. We broke up and I said screw him. Well we started back dating and being together and we had sex an all that untill about 6 months later we broke up again. This time i went crazy I meet a guy through my ex bestfriend it was her foster moms son. We had sex twice and they were poor so i said to myself i've gotta find someone who can satisfy me so i slept with another guy I knew from High School name Anthony the next day. Little did i know that the third time would leave me pregnant. He didn't have any condoms and i was dissapointed a week later because I was pregnant. I tried to tell him but he gave me the cold sholder. I was devastated.So me and my ex boyfriend Randy started talking again and after 3 weeks I told him that I got pregnant and he vowed to never speak to me again. Well he gave in after countless night of me begging and crying and talks with my mother on how he should learn to forgive.Suddenly he started asking these weird questions and we'd have these crazy arguments that i just never understood why we even bothered to discuss them. I just told him the truth because he believed that in a relationship nothing should be hidden or their shouldn't be a relationship at all. Well it became addictive he wanted to know more and more. Then he would demand that i tell him everything I ever did how i didt it and why i did it. So we stayed together decided to move in together aftet a couple months and he got worse so i decided to leave again.After leaving this time i slept with 3 other guys while broken up with him. The first guy was a one night stand the second was a two night stand and the last was a much older guy around the age of 30+ and i was only 20. Anyway the third guy turned out to obe a huge liar as well as the others but this one was worse.Anyway I had no one to talk to so I turned to my ex boyfriend. I confessed everything to him and we got back together again.Each and evey time we argue he brings him up and he asks how did I have sex with an old ass man. Why did i do this and so on and so forth.

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  • amberinboston
    14 years ago

    Ladies: never and I repeat Never...tell a man your history. They can't handle it.
    As women we can handle them and their stories but they can't handle ours. Even when they act as if we can trust them, they use it and throw it in our face later. Trust me.

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  • red678
    13 years ago

    You should never tell the 100% truth to your man because it will mess things up. Some secrets are needed for healthy relationships to exist.

    You should also stop having one night stands and always use condoms. If you get pregnant by a man you don't love get an abortion.. it's not worth bringing life into this world without love.

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  • misslonglegs
    7 years ago

    If men knew everything we have done in the past there would be no mystery in are life only tell him things he needs to know not all the dirty details

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Yeah. Sort of normal, but when my gf tells me about all the guys she has fucked and goes into detail and so on, it's disgusting, I don't wanna think about shit like that and ur bf doesn't either even if he says it doesn't bother him, IT DOES. What is weight off ur chest becomes a moist octopus squatting on his brain. GIRLS: keep ur past cock-speriences to yourself.

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    • Nokiot9
      9 years ago

      I don't go telling my gfs about all the pussy I've had and how good it was or all the cock I've sucked. It's just not right. You may think it brings u closer together because all ur secrets are in the open, but you would be wrong. Do u know how hard it is to get the image of someone u know railing the shit out if the woman u love, out of ur mind? I need a fucking lobotomy.

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  • Sorry,username-is-taken.
    12 years ago

    Okay.. So your ex-boyfriend is a fool and you're a whore..

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  • VampGurl
    13 years ago

    it's not fair for your bf to judge your past, you'll had one before him and you'll have one After him. My opinon is you just need to focuss on raising you baby and hold out awhile for love to find you..

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  • Jesibelle
    14 years ago

    Im in a similuar issue right now and I don't know if I can tell him all of the truth because if he leaves me and he finds out that the child isn't his (im only a week and a half) i will have no money and no where to go because I just got out of the Army at the begging of the month and the actual father is finishing AIT and then he goes to Iraq in two months! i want to tell them both. I suggest that you follow what you think is right but don't expect that lots of sex and getting treated like shit is what you deserve because it isn't. Stand up for yourself and your child and do whats best for it not you

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    never tell the whole history. if you find you are with someone who needles you for detail after detail, you are in for some trouble.

    the way you deal with upsets in your life is to sleep with men, and as you can see, that doesn't fix anything.

    as soon as the baby arrives, if you intend on keeping him/her, a paternity test is in order to prove the father, then of course, child support is in order.

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  • bazwell
    14 years ago

    I would suggest intense psychotherapy to deal with the co-dependence issues you seem to be struggling with. The reason why I suggest this is because even after the pregnancy which you described as a difficult time in your life, you continued to engage in the lifestyle that led you to that situation. You have not learned from your mistakes and are expecting different outcomes.

    The benefit of speaking with a counselor is that you have someone you can explore your thoughts, feelings and actions with; someone you can trust. Someone who can be completely neutral to your issues and can help you come up with a new and different take on your life and your choices.

    best of luck to you!
    As an alternative

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    • Rachell08
      14 years ago

      ok first off let me just say that this site only allows me to post 3,000 characters I have took out several paragraphs and as I read back it all sounds confusing and close in time but all this happened over a 4 year period from age 16-19 I have to disagree with you on the not learning from my mistakes tip n u know what funny I just finished intro to psych 2301 so I kno pleny about Psychotherapy I've never seen a counsler but my boyfreind has majored in the psych field n sociology so he says that i have a prob. also but once again I have learned from my mistakes im only 20 n Im becoming a woman n gaining knowledge from my experiences the light bulb in my head is stearing me away from promiscuos lifestlyes i just wish ppl knew that your mistakes make u the strong person that u become in the future if u let it but if u choose to keep doing them over and over AND NEVA learn from them then u will ultimately hit rock bottom and just crash in life

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      • captblood44
        9 years ago

        you need the state to get a dna test on the baby and the possible fathers and have that guy start paying child suppport. the state should help you with this, as i'm sure they don't want to raise your child.

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