Is it normal to talk too much and worry afterwards?

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Hi,

I don't want to talk a lot. But I do. I have always wanted and tried to change it. 99%% of the time, I feel people are offended by what I say; may be I go off the point and make them bored.
I literally REPLAY the conversation I make with people.
The worst part is my thought process seems almost reversed. i.e. I don't think enough before I say something and then I think too much after I said it or try to make the point I really meant ... adding more speech to it. I hate that.

I can't remember any time I regretted because I did not say anything. But I almost always regret after I say something.
Is this normal? I have decided to think enough before I say something. Even I want to be a calm person. Is it possible to do so? I feel I was created talkative but I really want to change that.
Do you think this is some habit that can be changed?
It is not that I think I am a bad person or something. May be I am too sensitive. I don't know.

Thanks!

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  • SmokieeJoe
    14 years ago

    I always ramble on and on and on .. usually in front of people I've just met then I say something really stupid or rude and worry about it for years :-)

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  • McGuinea
    12 years ago

    I thought I was the only 1!!!

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  • methodical
    12 years ago

    I tried to change by just staying quiet and not talking.. apparently people dont like that much either.. stay the same and dont worry they are the ones that are too sensitive you are just outspoken

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  • redhearts
    13 years ago

    This is why it is so critical to think before you speak and try not to blabber. It is much easier to control what comes out of your mouth than regret and psychoanalize everything you say. Mulling over things you regret saying feels icky, so don't say them! Start practicing pronto or life will be difficult for you.

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  • ToriGaelle
    14 years ago

    Tottally like me!!

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  • neopythagorean
    14 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel. As a therapist, I hear this a lot and can even relate personally to what you are saying. I've heard this so much from clients that I'm inclined to think that it's normal.

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  • looneypride
    14 years ago

    Hey don't worry sometimes when I get nervous I talk too much, and then look at the person's expressions and the way they respond and feel like a dumbass cause they are looking at me like STFU haha and then I get angry for wasting my breath on them!

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  • hotchickie81
    14 years ago

    I get like that sometimes too...

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  • xino00
    14 years ago

    yes it's normal, when you talk to much trash, you go too far and offend people!

    it's not good!

    learn to STFU sometimes:)

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