Is it normal to talk to your ex's family daily, after 2 years?

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I'm dating a great guy. Although, in the beginning of our relationship I had trust issues because he would text his ex girlfriend and hangout with her behind my back. I read the texts between them (not appropriate). Anyway, they finally stopped communicating after I told my boyfriend I was hurt by it. Afterwards my boyfriend would text his ex girlfriend's parents, but then delete the texts. When he finally stopped that after I told him my feelings; it seemed like everything was beginning to seem normal and healthy. Now I feel as if his ex girlfriend is trying to cram her way into my boyfriend's life again. She sends Facebook messages to his mom daily, talking as if she was her bestfriend, most of these messages are talking about past times, like "remember when we did this?".
Keep in mind that my boyfriend was a teenage, highschool boy while dating this girl(3 yrs) and it has been 2 years since they broke up and me and him have been dating for 1 1/2 yrs. I asked my boyfriend to ask her to stop communicating with his family because when she did communicate with my boyfriend's family, I felt as if I was a homewrecker, that ruined his and her relationship, atleast that's what the ex girlfriend's messages seem to portray.
I told my boyfriend twice to ask her to stop and he says to me "I think it's so weird that she still communicates with my mom and family too. I will make it stop" But he hasn't even attempted to do anything. What is going on? does he not want her out of his life or something? I need to know so I'm not sticking around pointlessly.

Am I being crazy or is it not normal for my boyfriend's ex to still be daily communicating with his family?

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Based on 48 votes (11 yes)
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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I think your bf thinks she's a nutter and doesn't want to communicate with her in any way! If he tells her to stop she will know that it's effecting your relationship, so she will escalate it. If he speaks to anyone he should talk to his mom and tell her not to respond. His mom thinks it's all innocent enough but doesn't see her motives. His mom shouldn't want to hurt him in any way.

    She's an ex for a reason and I've said it here a thousand times... if the relationship lasts longer than 4 years, then it's likely to last for life.

    3-4 years tends to be the max for 'lust' type of love.
    After 4 years if you still want to get married, I say get engaged and go for it! Do not have babies within that 4 year period - it may not last!!

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    • CaseyRoyce
      12 years ago

      Thank You! This helped a lot

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