Is it normal to talk about your wife with other man.

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I'm 56 married man with kids. I love my wife, I had a anal and oral sex with my male classmate since i was 16 year old, most of the time i was the receiver person and we still seen each other from time to time despite we both married. I got turned on and aroused when my friend started talking dirty about my wife and specially when he touching and folding her underwear. I confused between him and my wife, I can not stop my self thinking about him making love to my my wife while i watching that and even when i am making love with her I imagine he doing that instead of me. Is it normal

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Isolated

11 years ago | pl

There's no way your threesome fantasy will come true if she finds out you're cheating on her with a long-time lover...
...and why the hell is he folding your wife's underwear?

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- KINKYMOOD
  
  10 years ago
  
  I voted "NORMAL" because I know how you must feel.
  
  Here is a very quick diagnosis. You really have a problem "getting it up" for your wife. (Try VIAGRA)
  
  That was my problem, but before that drug came out, I just had him fuck her... and us two guys sucked each other off in front of her. Then we took turns fucking her. She just lay there and let us play as we pleased.. tits, cunt, mouth ... she gladly let us enjoy ourselves.
  
  It was especially fun to suck his cock right after he pulled out. She did not seem to care.
  
  However .. it built up a deep seated hostility ... and sex with her has NEVER been the same.
  
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anti-hero

11 years ago | pl

Dad, I told you to stop posting our family secrets on IIN.

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BlueJeansWhiteShirt

11 years ago | pl

Cannot believe you had to question if this was normal.

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CheyChey

11 years ago

You are a gay man trapped in a heterosexual marriage and what you are doing is unfair to your wife you don't deserve any sympathy shame on you for deceiving her all these years. Come clean she deserves to know the truth even if it hurts her, the only way out is through. You are 56 years old and you have to start living your life the way you really want, your kids will understand eventually don't carry on with this lie so you can spare everyone the pain.

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- [Old Memory]
  
  11 years ago
  
  ...He never said he cheated on her, only that he had sex with him when he was sixteen. In that case, she does not need to know of his sexual past.
  
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  - CheyChey
    
    11 years ago
    
    I understood that part but why is he having fantasies about this other man & this other man touching his wife's underwear deceiving her, sorta an emotional affair which is worse than actual cheating. Coming clean would be fair.
    
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      11 years ago
      
      He isn't deceiving her at all. Just because his friend perhaps thought he'd give him a hand folding their clothes does not mean he's deceiving her. He has fantasies, everyone does. Having fantasies about other people is ok, acting on them while with someone isn't.
      
      It isn't worse than actual cheating. If this person is more emotionally connected with the other man, that isn't his fault, he can't help how he feels, where as he can stop from engaging in sex.
      
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      - CheyChey
        
        11 years ago
        
        oh come on if you had a husband who had fantasies about other men while having sex with you you'd feel deceived. The fact that he engaged in a sexual encounter with another men before proves he's gay or bi. He probably has been pining away for his lover for years. Sex is something that is supposed to be between two people mind & body & there shouldn't be any room for fantasies of a 3rd person, he's cheapening something that is supposed to be beautiful. Also this goes way beyond just sex the whole relationship is messed up because it was built on lies. and "giving him a hand folding the clothing" it's underwear for goodness sake that's ridiculous you gotta admit that you don't ever have a situation were you help your buddy to fold your wife's underwear.
        
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        [Old Memory]
        
        11 years ago
        
        No, I wouldn't (I'm male, by the way). If I had a partner, I wouldn't expect them to only think of me in certain manners, it's impossible. If you think that people in relationship don't think of others in a particular manner then I am shocked.
        
        He is not deceiving her at all. He may have feelings for this man, but he has not acted on them, nor did he force these feelings on.
        
        I am not saying he isn't gay or bisexual, ofcourse he is. So what?
        Pining away? What do you mean?
        
        Actually, there are many groups of people that engage in sex that have more than two people, and it's supposed to be more beautiful.
        
        How was this built on lies? He had sex with him when he was young, probably not even met his wife, and then is thinking about this guy in a particular manner. The relationship has not been messed up at all, nor was there any lies involved. What lies were involved?
        
        He was helping fold clothing...What, do you think that the washing was only filled with underwear? Obviously he was folding the other clothing and then folder the underwear just as he did the other clothing. What, do you expect him to fold clothes, and then go "hey, fold your wife's underwear, it may have cooties!"...They are adults, not children.
        
        Obviously the underwear was part of the whole clothing pile he was folding, not just one big pile of his wife's underwear.
        
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the_misty_haze

11 years ago

The only thing that isn't OK here is if your wife doesn't know about your lover. If that's the case you have no idea the pain your wife will be in (forever by the way I know from experience ) your wife will be in (multiple times daily) if she finds out. As for your "question" people get turned on by all sorts of different things I don't think any particular turn on is abnormal. Either way its none of my business but I think the bigger thing you should be worrying about is if you want to continue to risk your family for this guy. For gods sake grow a pair and choose between them. Fucking anyone behind your wife's back just shows you care about your jollies more then her. You say you love your wife..then think of her for a second. This would destroy her.

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besto

11 years ago

what a sick man

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fartonmyface

11 years ago

Is the part about him shooting a load into your mouth really necessary. C'mon bro.

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

Troll, or perv.....

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fullhouse

11 years ago

I pity the wife..Seriously! choose one. I am sure your wife has got a clue that your a homo..

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Mando

11 years ago

I don't think a 40 year affair is that normal but understand by your age and perhaps if you live in the non-western world that homosexuality was/is oppressed and driven underground. So people live dual lives and have secret identities.

I don't think you should involve your wife in this if she isn't and doesn't know. People may naively urge "honesty," but really, why risk your marriage and family at an age were starting over isn't much of an option?

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ForMyPeaceOfMind

11 years ago

I think you just need to end your marriage rather than having rendezvous with this other man! You have totally destroyed the trust and bond of a marriage! I highly doubt your wife would be accepting of sleeping with a man that you have you been involved with sexually!

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Cheradenine

11 years ago

What a load of homophobic cunts and teenagers commenting upon a very serious, adult situation. Having lived your life with feelings for two seperate people, it is understandable that the lines are becoming very blurry for you. But i can only echo what some of the more mature people here have said. You need to own your feelings, decide what part of the relationship you really want, and what realistic out come you would be left with. Not knowing you personally, id doubt anyones wife would be keen to find out her husband was having a relationship behind her back, homosexual or otherwise. But deep down you will have to find the truth about what you want, because hiding it or deflecting these feelings will only make it harder for you to process

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- Lynxikat
  
  11 years ago
  
  Uh, the only person who could be labeled as a "homophobic cunt and teenager" among the commenters is a troll.
  
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Mando

11 years ago

I don't think a 40 year affair is that normal but understand by your age and perhaps if you live in the non-western world that homosexuality was/is oppressed and driven underground. So people live dual lives and have secret identities. I don't think you should involve your wife in this if she isn't and doesn't know. People may naively urge "honesty," but really, why risk your marriage and family at an age were starting over isn't much of an option?

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Silverloin

11 years ago

Wait a sec why is another dude from ur childhood TOUCHING and FOLDING ur still married to wifes underwear
And what u need to do and know is
1.choose ur wife or childhood male friend
2.if u choose ur wife then somethings about ur weird threesome fantasy is somethings should be locked up and taken to the grave where no one knows about it

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asscaring

11 years ago

You are being bisexual. What harm is there init? We are so ununderstanding of our own sexual orientations that we take strong exceptions to such people who can be having different kind of experiences. Arsn't most of us bisexual by nature?

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ccjigsaw

11 years ago

I hope this doesn't end like brokeback mountain..

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ksa_plzme

11 years ago

Thank you all for your comments,i like to mentioned the followings:
1) I never cheat on my wife since we got marrried about 22 years ago i am happy with my marriage
2) I am living in eastern culture where no sex before marriage can be accepted and as well the gay relationship, however the necessity of sex during the teenage period sometime required not to follow your culture and traditional
3) too many times I tried to stop the relationship after marriage with my BF but i was unable to do that due to long long period we been toghter
4) I became obessed with him I enjoy the sex with him specially the oral sex and even i do not mind for him to shoot his load inside my mouth
5) Hopefully my wife will not find out about our relation with my bf and continue to live the same way as it is now

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

Yeah dad. Your so embarrassing

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