Is it normal to switch from feeling male to feeling female?

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I'm eighteen, female, and have always been kind of a tomboy. Even though I liked doing boyish things and usually pretended to be a boy when playing make-belief games, I'm not sure if I was unhappy about actually being a girl. Now, I consider myself female, but I get big swings between wanting to be delicate and feminine and wanting to be tall, masculine and strong. I find myself hating my face and hair for being not very masculine and my hands for being so small. I am also increasingly becoming more unhappy about having breasts at all. I'd love to hear any thoughts on this.

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  • oneofthosebeatlesfans
    11 years ago

    Yes, it is completely normal. What you sound like is genderfluid - which is when a person can one day feel feminine and girly, and the next very masculine and boyish. They don't always have a definite gender. I think you should educate yourself on the topic, it sounds like you.

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  • melloelf
    11 years ago

    This is normal, questions about gender are common in teens, due to a lot of hormones flying around. Although many don't admit it, a lot of people have at least fleeting thoughts of what it would be like to be the opposite sex.
    But anyways, about the feeling uncomfortable with your chest, have you considered wearing sportsbras? Or even investing in a binder? (it's like a shirt that is made to compress the chest so it looks more male, for those who don't know) hell, even get a boys hair cut, in this day and age it's a lot more acceptable to see people not appear as 100% male or 100% female.
    I wouldn't worry too much, unless you feel real distress and discomfort that gets to the point that you can't even function because of how your body is, then there is no real worry about how you feel :)

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    • P.T.MacLennan
      11 years ago

      Thank you, I have been wearing a sports bra, and my hair has been very short, but I have promised certain people to at least try and have it long for a while... Anyways, I do feel a little distressed and depressed because of this matter but at the same time I don't want to be fully male. It's just as if I am feeling really indecisive and it's killing my motivation. However, I think it will all go well, I am not to negative about this, it's just a bit frustrating.

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  • Diver2
    9 years ago

    I would have to see you completely naked to give you my opinion.

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  • QueenJessiLXIX
    10 years ago

    It's perfectly normal, hun. I'm a bit genderfluid myself... You can have fun with it, too. My best friend is a crossdresser, and sometimes we have fun by going out for dinner and acting like it's a date, and I wear male clothes, while he wears female clothes. We act like a couple, and he uses masculine pronouns to refer to me whereas I use feminine pronouns to refer to him. It's great fun, and although we sometimes get an awkward stare or two, it's funny to see all the people with Jackie Chan "WTF?!" Faces XD

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  • SkullsNBones
    11 years ago

    I'm two years younger than you and sometimes I want to be a boy just to be physically stronger, plus it's a lot easier to be an attractive male. So yeah, I think you're normal.

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