Is it normal to suddenly lose most of my friends?

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throughout the last 3 years, ive had a group of friends that i considered to be very close. we used to do everything together, but now they seem to not want anything to do with me. we have different interests and ideas of fun now. i never get calls on weekends anymore, and if i invite them to do something, their busy. i also lost another friend, separate from the group, as well. i also considered him to be a close friend,but he has stopped talking to me completely. out of the blue.

now, i mostly hang out with one person and his friends and we mostly just smoke pot. hes a good friend, but we only started hanging out this year, and now im afraid ill eventually lose him too. hes become my de-facto best friend, but since he has a gf, i am not his.

i fear that ive become boring(possibly from pot?)and i am no longer fun to be around. this, combined with my other personal problems (unattractive, overweight, low self-esteem) has made me extremely depressed (so i continue to toke, as it is my anti-depressant).

i feel lonely and isolated. i have no-one to discuss personal problems or feelings with anymore now that ive lost my best friend(s). i feel that i dont have one true friend anymore, which is very new for me. its all very troubling and, well, scary. ive always been a bit of a loner, and i do enjoy being alone sometimes, but going from having lots of friends to one almost overnight is hard.

is it normal for this to happen? can someone relate?

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  • Jen118584
    14 years ago

    Your first step is to quit smoking pot. Seriously. Even though smoking pot is, in my opinion, awesome and fun, I just can't do it anymore because it eventually makes me feel all the things you're describing. Lonely, isolated, boring, like I've got nothing intelligent or interesting to say. It's fine if all your friends smoke, but then when I'm around people that don't, I'm acutely aware of it, ya know? I just don't feel like I'm on an even playing field with them.

    Anyways, You're not happy with where your life is going and you seem to want to change before it's too late. But seriously, you gotta cut way back on the pot. It's fine recreationally now and then but being a pothead is just no good for the self esteem. I know it's hard to cut back, but you just gotta suck it up. If I did it you can, because I ADORE pot but I've managed to cut it out of my life.

    As for your friends, they come and go. You grow apart, it happens. Nothing says you can't make new friends but you're not gonna do it sitting in your room alone getting high!

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  • kittyg7113
    12 years ago

    In my opinion, that's the problem with pot - at first it helps, then eventually it creates more problems. It's one thing to smoke occasionally, and another to make it your lifestyle. Maybe try not to focus on the friends you lost, but pick up some new hobbies. Not only will this be fun for you and help your confidence, it will also give you stuff to talk about so you'll have more to bring to the table in a friendship. Start working out, doing meditation, making art. Take walks, get into cooking, go to the library. Whatever draws you in. If you like yourself and feel you're an interesting person, people will be drawn to you.

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  • nicko43
    13 years ago

    dude the very same thing happened to me freakly the same ive been off weed for 6 months except none of me mates wanna hang cus i dont smoke nemore illd say cut back or quit completly its super hard to do i fucking no that by far but u will feel heaps better after two week ull get cravings for ages but cheer up u never know they mite come around maybe its just cus u wanna smoke all the time even tho they smoke u could just crave it way more than them especialy if their always shouting u just saying......maybe hit up the pub find a misses , maybe start exercising as this will give u more energy release endorphins make u happy or some new habits socaily exceptable ones drinking fishing riding watever floats ur boat it might give u a ruetin to look forward to the main thing is have a go ps dont go too hard to fast as it mite burn u out but stick with it lad but be carefull with drinking as it might replace pot as ur comfert habit do be embaresd and see a drug and alcohol worker as they can really help good luck :)

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