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when you're in a long term relationship (about 4 years) with a very loving partner? Not that I ever act on the urges, but sometimes I wish I could. The only reason I never act on it is because I love him and couldn't bear the thought of hurting him. But are those urges normal? Or am I not ready to be in a relationship?
I'm in a relationship right now but really want to fuck another girl even though I know I don't want to hurt her.
It's normal to have these thoughts, but as you say, it's ok as long as you don't act upon it.
I hate to say it but I have to say it... Don't worry too much about hurting him because if you feel that way he probably feels the same way. He is probably cheating on you. My bf was cheating on me even though we were together for over 4 years. I'm just saying that they may seem so innocent and great but it turned out my bf was just a compulsive liar... And I didn't expect it at all! So watch out and good luck. If you decide to have sex with someone else don't feel bad cause he may be wanting or even doing the same thing.
This sounds kind of like my relationship a bit, but the roles are reversed. What we did, is explored going to a swingers club. I'd suggest, find out how open he is to you messing around with another girl, or exhibitionism, or voyeurism. Maybe you already know since you're 4 years in, but if you have a wild hair, it can be fun to live it out there, and if he's not the jealous type it's a win-win situation. Swingers clubs aren't about just going and having orgies with random people. you can just dance on the pole if you're an exhibitionist (but if u don't like porn i'd suggest not going)